I am unconfortable. Because I cannot and do not want to pay for those expensive gift for her 1 years old son. I been her friend for more than 10 years. I think this a time for quit our freindship. Because she said bad words to me and hurt my feeling for more than 1 year. because I gave cheap gifts for her son. What do you think? She is my best friend. Now I think she was. I feel I lose friend.
2007-10-09 06:46:53 · 11 answers · asked by Lee Y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is not a friend. #
2007-10-09 06:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to continue your friendship with this woman, the only thing I could suggest is to invite her to tea and discuss her recent behavior - especially with the expensive gifts to a baby. Ask her if she really values your friendship - or does she feel it's value is only as much as you spend?
That's going to really put a strain on any kind of relationship - so be prepared for her to be upset.
If you have already decided that this woman, while very nice on the outside, is extremely shallow and only values things over friendship - then I suggest you be "busy" when she asks to visit with you - and to always be "at the wrong end of the paycheck" when it comes to spending money on her and her baby.
She'll eventually drop you - but what have you really lost - except maybe a high credit card bill?
2007-10-09 13:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you've had a heart-to-heart talk with your friend. Give her some examples of her comments, tell her how it makes you feel.
From now on, I'd suggest you make gifts for her son, don't buy them. Take a good photo of him, put it in a frame. Find other gifts to make.
A link below has many examples. There are other websites with ideas, also. Just type: ideas for gifts to make
in any search engine.
2007-10-09 13:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to start treating you nice and if she does not than don't talk to her for awhile as far As gift goes kids breaks things so fast , why should you spend a lot of money on things they will pull apart or break in two sec. a gift is a gift the kids do not know the price of things all the time , the just like to play and have fun it is the parents that have to be taught that money isn't everything and than pass that onto the kids.
2007-10-09 13:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her know that you do not believe you have to buy expensive giflts for her son, her son is only one and will outgrow the gifts in no time. Besides, she can buy the expensive gifts herself if that is what she wants.
2007-10-09 13:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Settelbanat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your friendship is based on finances and gifts, I'd say it's time to get a new best friend. Sorry.
2007-10-09 13:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by meemaw1968 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable why you feel that way... but she has stuck by you for 10 years, wouldn't feel right if you broke up your friendship over this. communicate with your friend, tell her
"Its the thought that counts, not the gift."
2007-10-09 13:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by zsdreamersz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you can afford it. If she takes offence, shes not a real friend.
And a real friend wouldnt try and get you to spend alot on her son, if she wants expensive things for her son, she should buy them herself.
2007-10-09 13:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by jojobass86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time to drop her if she wants you to buy expensive gifts that you cannot afford ( or don't wanna buy) then she shouldn't get upset. I mean she is your best friend, she has no right to be upset about this......
2007-10-09 13:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just a gold digger and she's not a friend if she's doing that 2 u but i suggest that you don't take it as personal thing just confront her and let her know how u feel!
2007-10-09 13:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Ya Gurl Lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, don 't feel bad about that. I am sure, with your 10 years of friendship, you already learned to forgive her. Just pray for her and soon enough she will chance IN GOD'S TIME.
Cheers!!!!! GOD BLESS :)
2007-10-09 14:04:53 · answer #11 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋