Vague I know, am just interested in peoples opinions. Please make a comment. Thanks
2007-10-09 06:20:28 · 13 answers · asked by melanie l 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Thanks for your comments, may i just add i am in no way judging , I am 20 yrs and pregnant myself.
I was thinking more or anyone around 18 -22 years
2007-10-09 06:34:10 · update #1
Well, Im 19 but got pregnant 9 days before I turned 18 UNPLANNED. But guess what? Age doesnt matter. Its not about how old you are and being a parent, its about how you step up to your responsibilities as a parent. It doesnt matter if you are married or dating either. Two parents doesn't make a better family, its how the parents are that makes a family (I am still with the father, happily). A career helps and being "ready" also helps BUT, things happen. I love my daughter more than anything in this world. I wouldnt trade her for the world but honestly, I wouldve rather been older. I'm missing out on a lot but my wishes dont matter anymore. It is all about her now. If you are ready to give up all of you "wants" and give them up for a child, then do so. But know, all decisions have consequences.
2007-10-09 06:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I'm 19, I have an 8 month old daughter and I've been married to my high-school sweet-heart for 14 months. I got pregnant two months before graduating high-school, and 4 months before turning 18. It was a total surprise, and it did change my life completely.. but if I could do it all over again I'd do everything the same way. Despite the fact that we didn't plan it and that we are really young, we've had our own place since we got married, we are one of the few lucky ones that have made it work.
I don't think that there's an actual age for someone to be able to have a baby, some people are over thirty and are still immature and irresponsible, in yet they have kids for whom they cannot care for because they can barely take care of them selves. Some people say they want to have kids when they are financially able to... if you really think about it, that is most likely impossible.
Being able to raise a kid has to do with how mature the person is to step up and take responsibility. The age will only make it harder, but not impossible.
Janneth
*19 year old mommy & wife*
2007-10-09 06:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Janneth *19yr.old mommy & wife* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the responsibility bit on the first answer you received. However, I think kids having kids is such a bad idea. So many young people I know have wanted and had kids at young ages and 90 percent of them are miserable, stressed and now single parents. I got pregnant when I was 17, right out of high school. I thought the guy that I was with was someone that I would be with forever and that we could handle having a baby. I am glad that the Lord had other plans for me, because instead of being happily married, having a great job and financially stable...I would probably be living in government housing, broke and taking care of a child that I might resent (due to the fact that their father is a drunken party animal) and waitressing in some crappy little town. Every once in a while you hear of someone young actually becoming successful, and that is wonderful, but I generally don't advise it.
2007-10-09 06:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by HellzBellz08 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that a planned pregnancy is good, but not young!! I know people that got pregnant at the age of 17 or 18 and kind of wish they wouldn't have. Granted they love their kid and wouldn't change them for the world, but wasn't ready to make the changes in life. They miss being able to do what they want, when they want, and how they want. Kids are a big responsibility and my suggestion is don't have one until you've had completely all the fun possible. I say around 23 is a good age cause by then you will have had a lot of fun, get the bar thing out of your system, and by then most people are pretty well ready to settle down. Having a baby changes everything in your life. Don't start when your still a kid yourself. That's my theory
2007-10-09 06:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It definitely isn't just about a number as previous posts said, I know of many 16 year old more mature than some 28 year olds. But with that said, I feel once you are in high school a "planned" pregnancy isn't very smart. Once your an adult (legal at 18) you can pretty much do whatever you want.
2007-10-09 06:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by aJr2006 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its up to you to answer this (?), the 1st thing you'll want to ask yourself is am I ready to take care a child for the next 18+ years, Can I manage missing out on all the interesting things thats going on in the community now, or am I ready to gain weight in all the other places, am I fancially stable on taking responsiblity, once you've answere them then you'll no if your ready or not. I agree with #1 I am 19 also but unlike her I am ttc#1.
2007-10-09 08:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 2 w/ PCOS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how young, I don't think a 16 year old is ready for parenthood, and they may think that is what they want without realizing how hard it is and then have to struggle to make ends meet. However, there are a lot of young people in their early twenties, like myself, who have college degrees or stable jobs, their own household, and a stable relationship, who are responsible and independent. They are ready to plan a family, so I support that.
2007-10-09 06:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sugarcookie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am young in the age range and am planning on having a baby with my fiance(soon to be husband) because I have endometriosis and if I wait even a year I will not be able to concieve and we both know we want a child. For me I think this is reasonable. As long as people are married I think its fine. But my problem is when chicks plan on getting pregnant with their boyfriends who obviously cant even make a commitment to them by marrying them.... its just a different world out there I guess.
2007-10-09 06:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lale 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
it depends on how young your talking here. still in high school: wait and get your diploma. personally i think one should wait until your married. i got married at 20. but i agree w/ the first answer. its more about how mature you are and how one can step up rather than a number.
2007-10-09 06:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
age doesn't matter, it's about how responsible u are.
My 40 yr old aunt goes around having sex with man after man, and leaves are children to do whateevr they please, even skip school. So it's about the individuals maturity, not age.
Although 13 is an age, but also is not mature enough.
It's common sense.
I have no children yet, but know I'd be a great mother.
Stop judging.
2007-10-09 06:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by Lorelei's Mommy ( & prego) 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋