Why are women so insecure and why do we allow men to use and abuse us ?

Question

It seems that we have become the getto rap generation.We expect and feel a man should treat us badly.Most women are in jail/prison because they were doing something for their man.

Sorry,I meant to say most of the women in jail are there because they were doing something for their boyfriends.

Answer 1

You shouldnt be if you get the right man...I never treat anyone like that..I even get on my friends when they do that to their girlfriends i tell them it's not acceptable..

Answer 2

what i think you have to look at here is the question you have told us , you have said that ? Why do you we allow men to use and abuse you . well ask yourself ? why do you allow them to abuse you , ? you are an adult are you not ? if so then why are you putting up with the man who abuses you , Is it because you like this sort of stuff ? and even go to jail for him , < is he worth all this , i think not , surely you do not have to stick with one fish you pull out of the sea , is they not more in the sea , that will respect you as a lady , ? try it , YOU SAY THAT most woman would go into jail -prison because their man , Again IN THIS DAY AND AGE , I WOULD DOUBT IF YOU WOULD , ask your self what am i doing in a jail ? i am sure its not because you want a holiday in their , , i know one thing i would not go to jail for any woman , especialy if i had done nothing wrong , So why are you going in for? I think you really need to sort yourself out , about the man you choose , next time

Answer 3

I wouldn't say all women are insecure, I am very confident and sure of myself but because of my strong nature I seem to attract men who are looking for a "mother" figure to look after them.
So I don't get the "used and abused" part of it all, but I do tend to be the one in charge all the time, making all the decisions and organising the daily agenda. Which can be a bit boring sometimes lol.
But I would never let a man treat me badly or do anything for him that I wouldn't expect him to do for me in the same situation.
I guess most women need to stop going for the bad guys all the time and give the good guys a chance lol

Answer 4

You're missing the point. This has been going on a lot longer than the new incarnation of the subject. Only recently have the women in America been able to even comment on their second class status.

We are this way from generation after generation of breeding, and will continue to be this way as long as we accept it.

It's a lack of appreciation for humanity. It's not just women, it's the men as well. Everyone must be allowed to feel worthy of existence.

Answer 5

It's because these days, men are 'coming out' all over the place, and converting to gay 'lifestyle' in DROVES. More and more they are relying not only on their same-sex friendships, but now that it is SO accepted, man-SEX as well! Basically, the message is.....they don't NEED us anymore, for anything! And since straight men have become such a dying breed, the few that are left are taking full advantage of their status. This whole homosexual 'revolution' has created an imbalance of nature. The FEW straight men left know that they are weilding all the power, because there must be at LEAST ten lonely women for every ONE of THEM! They can pick and choose, and discard us at will, because single women are dime-a-dozen. Ever notice how so many beautiful and attractive women these days are with some dorky-looking cretin? That is because most of the physically desirable men are now hooking up with other MEN!

We women are left out in the cold these days. What are our options? Well, we could succumb to lesbianism, and opt to share our lives with another caring woman, if we have that in us to do so. Or we can just resign ourselves to 'settle' for any old piece-of-sh!t 'man', and take his crap, knowing he could - and probably WILL - trade us in on someone younger, and 'hotter', at any time. OR - the third option, which I personally have lived for the past 15 years since my former sham of a marriage ended - live a solitary life of celibacy. So unless you happen to like sleeping with other women, I'd say the prospects of finding a decent mate are slim to none in this new modern era of 'openmindedness'! Bitter? YOU BET!!!!!

Answer 6

I don't think that men are naturally violent and I don't think that men are bad. The majority of men are not violent. Researchers have discovered many past cultures with little or no violence.
At the same time I do think that many men have learned to express their anger or insecurity through violence. Many men have come to believe that violence against a woman, child or another man is an acceptable way to control another person.
The problem does not stop with physical violence. There are forms of emotional violence--from sexist joking, to sexual harassment at work, to other domineering forms of behavior. By remaining silent about these things, they allow other men to poison our working and learning environments. We feel that, as men, they have a unique responsibility to speak on this issue.

Answer 7

Most women are not in jail. Most women are not in jail. Apart from that, women are emotional, generally. They need to feel a connection to something, and the media, music, and popular culture has portrayed the "Bad Boy" as attractive and desirable. The bad boy just also happens to be bad for you, often.

Answer 8

I am very secure in who I am and what I am. I don't need a man to make me feel complete. I am quite the handy little fem too. I do most of my own auto work, all the ms-fixit stuff around the house and can play tackle football with my son. I have never needed a man to validate me. I'm sorry you have this experience.

Answer 9

The older you get, you will develop respect for yourself, and not let men walk on you or treat you bad. I know from personal experience (a lot of it) that, you have to know what your needs are and what "you" want, and respect yourself, before any man will ever respect you! We are in charge of our mind, body, and spirit!
I think women are insecure, because society, thinks women need to be this weight, and look like a model. Wrong! We need to me ourselves, and that's all we can be. Love yourself!

Answer 10

some women would rather be in an unhealthy relationship and have someone than be alone. those that are insecure are unhappy on their own feel that they need someone to show them their "worth".
a healthy woman knows who they are, their worth, their beauty and wont put up with crap like being used and abused. a healthy woman is fine on her own. and happy on her own.
those that are unhealthy and weak put up with the crap because they are not strong enough to leave and are not strong enough to be alone or comfortable with themselves to be alone.
it is better to be happy and alone than be hurt, used and with someone.
being picky is not a bad thing. waiting for someone who will treat you right is good and smart!
the best sort of relationship is where both individuals are happy and healthy on their own and don't "need" the other but want the other. people need to be fine on their own before entering a relationship.

Answer 11

because a women want a gentleman in publice but an animal in the sack, just like guys want a lady in the streets and a whore in bed. sometimes the person you're with is more one than the other. on another note, i would say most guys shouldn't be in any serious relationship, they just aren't made for it.