If she said that she was having bad memories from her childhood. I know the memories are real because I went throught it myself. She has them in her dreams and when she is doing normal stuff. She said that is is having trouble taking care of the baby. Her delivery was very hard. They had to use forceps and they didn't use them right. She tore really bad. They had to give her many stiches. It took over and hour. They doctors say that is a long time. They had to give her a blood . The doctor beilive that the birth might be why she started remembering thing. She won't talk about it when she was young. She said that she didn't remember. What can I do to help? Please don't me mean she is a good person . She does love her baby.
2007-10-09 03:47:28 · 3 answers · asked by NayNay 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is getting help. She is still having problems. I have been helping her. I brought the baby to my children's doctor. I may sure the baby has everything she need. I may sure that my family member has everything she needs. I have show her how to feed her baby, change the diaper, give the baby a bath. I talk to her when she will . The baby is 6 months . She has asked me to adopt but I don't know if that is best thing. If or when she gets better then what. I do want to help her keep her baby. This baby will not go outside of the family.
2007-10-09 04:08:13 · update #1
Post partum depression is very serious. She needs to talk to a mental health counselor today. Offer to make her an appointment and tell her you are there for her.
You need to support your family member. Offer to help her with her baby and let her get some time away. Offer your assistance in any way you can.
Babysit, wash clothes for her, take her on car rides with you, take her shopping, go on walks together
Just listen to her and be there. Give her $10 to go get a snack somewhere and babysit for her.
I personally had terrible post partum depression after the birth of my daughter. I was not thinking right and my husband was not supportive. It took about 4 months to get my head back
Please do not ignore this. Help her in anyway you can. She needs it more than you know.
2007-10-09 03:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like more than post partum depression since having her baby has triggered memories that she suppressed from her childhood. This will most likely continue as her child grows.
It great that she has someone watching over her (you). Your update notes she is getting help - I assume that means therapy. It's important that she continues with a therapist she trusts and that you/family members are there to support her.
Don't dismiss her notion of wanting to give her child to you. This should be a red flag. Make sure she tells her therapist that she is feeling this way. If you in any way feel that the safety of the baby is at risk you must immediately remove the baby.
If you are comfortable with her keeping the child then continue to spend time with her and watch how she interacts with the baby. Continue to model behavior for her so she can learn how to take care of and play with her child. Assure her that you are only a phone call away 24/7.
If her therapist feels she is ready it may be helpful for her to join a new mothers group so she can talk to others who are experiencing the same life changes.
2007-10-09 04:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by belle2112 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with her to discuss this with her OB/GYN first and then to a psychologist. She needs help . . .
2007-10-09 03:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋