My husband says he's not interested in porn and he's right for the most part. He looks up still photos (some clean/some not ) of girls like Sara Evans, Sara Michelle Gellar, Angie Harmon, Jewell....but then he'll look up girls in thongs and stuff like that. He also has a weird thing for FLEXIBLE girls-usually clothed. Teenage gymnists. I've told him that I'm up for anything. I'll watch porn with him (big NO-he doesn't like porn or I guess watching the acts of it). I swear he only sees me as Ms. Goody 2 shoes & can't see me any other way.
I try-I do my hair & make up everyday (he doesn't notice) I wear shorts/skirt if it's warm enough, jeans that he likes...to no avail. I'm not heavy & I'm a pretty enough girl (he calls me beautiful daily). So why does he do this? I've asked him so many times not to, that it hurts my feelings, but he still does. It's just creepy. Staring at a face on the screen..
Here's a pic of me
http://myworld.ebay.com/myoldetradingpost
2007-10-09 03:20:25 · 19 answers · asked by pnsvail 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is cheating, he does it anyway knowing it hurts you... he does not care about you if he keeps doing this... and the teenage thing... that is wrong, totally wrong! he is a man and should act like a man, not a teenager! once you marry, you forsake all others, this includes pics of others... and obsessing about others you can't be with! he needs to totally devote himself to you or this will end in divorce =(... cheating is cheating, and so is fantasizing... =(... he only thinks he's missing out on the world...when, actually, you should be his world! he does it because you let him... and because it's easy having a computer and doing it... if you did not have a computer, I would see a whole lot of less problems... perhaps you should plan on being at home when he is at home... and do your errands when he is at work... good luck... or get rid of the computer...
2007-10-09 03:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-18 15:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Johnnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm not a lady, so you will excuse me to say that you look like any man's dream. Your husband's problem may be, however, that he is more into much younger bodies, the flexible girl type. Which would explain why he is not interested in watching porn with you nad finds it so difficult to give up on his little pics. I understand very well that this hurts your feelings, but if that is desire deep within your husband you cannot do much about it. I'm afraid that your only choice is between tolerating it (and making sure that he does not go further than looking at photos) or separating from him if you cannot stand that idea.
2007-10-09 03:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned that looking at porn (masurbating) can sometimes be a very personal thing for some people that they do not feel comfortable sharing with anyone. As far as the teenage gymnast thing....I wouldn't worry about that either, by far most gymnasts ARE teenage girls. I do think though that if you show yourself to be a little naughty you might be able to crack his shell. A good start would be to show him that it's okay to share those moments.......for example maybe masturbate while you're in bed together and encourage him to do the same. I've found it's almost impossible for anyone to resist, lol. Especially with you because your pic is beautiful! Anyways, once you are both going then ask him to just describe a dirty fantasy to you while you both "think" about it. You will learn a lot about his sexuality this way and it's almost guaranteed to open up some lines of communication to help your concern. Just remember to withhold judgement of his fantasy and give a token moan every now and then, hehe. Hope I helped!
2007-10-09 03:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you are beautiful. If I were you, maybe do something unexpected in the bedroom, like a strip tease as flexable as you can or suggest he take some pictures of you that you can put on your screen saver, kinky pictures. Then maybe when he goes on the computer and sees you like that, he might start warming up to the idea of you being more than just a goody 2 shoes to him.
2007-10-09 03:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not about you. first i will have to say the "teen age gymnist" thing is a real big problem.
My ex had/has a huge "porn" problem, i had no idea the extent of it until i searched the computers history, found hidden downloads and such. i think many men that have this fetish have a problem "connecting" with a breathing, living person. Mine was kinda nice to me also, but he had big issues.
2007-10-09 03:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's into that sort of thing but that he doesn't want to see his wife in that way. Your his pure one..he wants to leave the naughty things for women/girls he doesn't know, doesn't love. I think it's wrong that he continues to do it though after you've told him how it makes you feel, It doesn't sound like he's going to stop if he still does it after you've talked to him. Maybe it's something you'll have to learn to live with or not at all. My husband used to have pics of girls like that on his computer before we were married. Once we did they all dissappeared. I don't think I'd want chicks on my desktop either...
2007-10-09 03:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by pookiesmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a good looking woman,If he does'nt like porn he needs his man card pulled.I think he likes the wonder of whats underneath the clothing.the teen aged thing would be a concern.maybe he sees you as a mother figure not the hot wife you are
2007-10-09 06:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Maggie about the teens, i would be worried alot about that. I heard my fiancee tell his friends,, " Why look at hamburger when you have steak at home?" ( and he didn't know i heard) That made me feel special indeed. I have to agree with that statement myself. You need to ask yourself if you can accept that part of him, and if he isn't willing to than only you know what you can and can't handle in your relationship. Best of luck
2007-10-09 03:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He likes porn I guarantee you. You said he likes to look at teenage gymnist and this would bother me. How old is he?
2007-10-09 03:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Darcee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋