Capable of love, and seeks it. If the divorce set him back a little bit in his achieving his goals, and he's just not financially stable to provide you with the finer things in life as of right now. Would you date him stick it out, and see him as a guy with potential or would you think of him as a loser who needs to have himself completely together before he decides to date
2007-10-09 03:11:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
money is not the key element to having a successful relationship. love and happiness is, I personally don't mind building towards financial stability with someone because then it is no longer viewed as his or mines but ours.
2007-10-09 03:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by ~Nia~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love a guy like this! I can remember back when the funnest times and the most romantic times didn't cost a cent! Like picnics in the park on a beautiful afternoon, cuddling up by a fire on a cold night, playing card games for hours, going on an evening walk and just talking.... There is a lot you can do that doesn't cost anything, and they turn out to be sweeter and more interesting that say, going to the movies.
I just hope you find a girl out there that isn't into money, I know there are a few that can be real... well, you know...
2007-10-09 10:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Financial status, though important when having a family, isn't everything in a relationship.
There's no real reason to ask this question if you truly think about it.
If a woman saw a man with great inner potential as a looser for not gaining his goal or having a great deal of money is no woman that this man needs (or any man for that matter).
I think that the guy is capable of dating if he's on the road to getting things together, if he's actually working on it and truly making a positive effort in his life. In fact, a relationship might just put the icing on the cake to help better himself and his situation.
I think any woman worth while would see a person for who they truly are... and it's not a matter of set backs for financial stability.
If this question pertains to you though, I do worry about your self confidence. If this is about you, don't worry about how you're going to find anyone (or the right one)... 'cause the right one will know better than to judge you poorly. If you know yourself to be a genuine person, then you're going to find a genuine person who can see you for who you are, as you can for them. Don't stress over it, 'cause the person that's for your will definitely know better.
2007-10-09 10:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bob Saget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if a guy can walk away from a divorce that took most of what he has and he is ready to get out there and date again, I would definilty date him. It shows that he isn't a quitter and he is willing to give love another chance. Him not having a lot at the moment only means that he will work hard to get those things he lost and he has lots of potential.
2007-10-09 10:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my daughter told me she was dating a guy that just got a divorce, is financially unstable, and is trying to dig himself out of a financial and emotional hole, I'd tell her to move on.
Would YOU invest into a car that had a dent in the door, the passenger window doesn't roll down, no air conditioning, but looked like it MIGHT be pretty cool if it was fixed up a little bit? Or would you save your money and buy a car that didn't need so much work? Think about the woman you want to attract my friend. Because at the rate you're going, the only women you're going to attract are the one's that want to fix you up. Once you're fixed, then what?
2007-10-09 10:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Money and materials don't mean anything to me...so long as he isn't wanting to mooch off of me then I wouldn't have a problem with him. He take care of his and I take care of mine, and we will get along great! And if he's seeking women who do care about his financial status then he'll most likely be looking to be divorced again eventually.
2007-10-09 10:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I met my husband he had been divorced and he didn't have anything and was living with his brother. 11 years later we own our own business and are very happy. Those days when we were broke were a lot of fun. Don't get me wrong, we still have a lot of fun. We found things to do that cost very little or no money.
2007-10-09 10:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first instinct is to say no, not because of what he has or doesn't have, but i would worry about the rebound thing. If he gave it a decent amount of time to pursue me than yes, and i fell in love with him, yes i would. You can always tell a loser to someone who has potential.
2007-10-09 10:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I met my husband he was 25 years old- no divorce- they never married, but he had come out of a very long term relationship and had lost a lot of money in a bitter custody battle over their daughter. In order to save money to pay lawyers, he had moved home with his mom temporarily.
I wasn't concerned with his lack of money as much as I was impressed with his need to see to it that his daughter was taken care of. Character over bank balance any day.
2007-10-09 10:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha! yeah, I would. Money isn't what makes the relationship. My husband and I struggle financially and if I were to leave b/c of lack of money it would of been pre-dating. Point is. Money isn't the determining factor, or at least it shouldn't be. You could be rich today and bankrupt tommorrow.
2007-10-09 10:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋