Do we suck accepting our mistake!?

Question

Well, here I am again, trying to put in words all that invades my mind and heart at the speed of light. You know life throws up all kinds of stuff that one can never imagine. The other day, I donno, just out of the blue, my mind started throwing up these conjunction of situations where I was forced to bite my tongue and throw my hands up in surrender. (my mind is crazy like that, one thought leads to another and before u know, u have an entire movie script ready !!)

It got me thinking...all through life, whenever I have been faced with a situation where I was WRONG (of having made a mistake), how it sucked to accept that fact. Why do we feel so - "oh my god, i couldn't have done that. I can't be wrong. There must be some mistake". Well, there was, and I made it.

What is this fear of accepting our worst fear of having made a blunder and having someone point it out to us? Do we really believe that if someone points it out, it reduces something of us. Is this so devastating that we can never rise above it?
We suck, we suck bigtime at a lot of things. Each one of us, no matter how perfect we think we are, or our lives are, we still find things that suck the life right out of us. But in accepting them and dealing with it, makes us learn, widens our own perspective of it. Its our mistake, why give someone else the pleasure of making it theirs?

Answer 1

Even believing that someone has stolen your experience of making a mistake is your own experience.
Doesn't matter who points out a mistake you've made, you're the one who made the mistake. If you don't want to repeat it, you should own up to it, to yourself.
It's embarrassing when somebody points it out, yeah, that's rough. But, it has to be what you do from there that shows your character, and allows you to grow, or not.
I heard someone say once: "Life is either resistance or surrender..." speaking of attitudes.
People choose their attitudes. Accept that you've screwed this up, or deny it. Which one will lead you to enlightenment?

Answer 2

Learn to enjoy mistakes, the more you make, the more successes you will create. Also you can laugh at them by imagining someone else making them, such as an animated cartoon persona. If someone is belittling you for it, you can laugh at how foolish they are because you got stronger and wiser and critics do not.

Every action is either a direct success or something different. There are few direct successes and many differences, thus, the more you try, both successes and differences will increase. The only way to avoid differences is to not try anything, which also eliminates successes.

You can increase success to difference ratio in a few ways I know of:
1. make more attempts and learn from more differences, faster
2. every difference has a successful component, find it
3. every difference can be taken as a success, converted to a success, used as a success. this involves changing your approach, your goals, you attitude, your procedures. It is often called "making lemonade out of lemons".

If outcomes are unexpectedly different, don't imagine it's a failure for more than an instant. A light should appear... The actual outcome is a success. See it. Build on it. Enjoy it and all its fruits.

Answer 3

You should consider starting a blog.

And we're afraid of being wrong and making mistakes because our crazy American culture puts too much emphasis on things that really don't matter (or exist) in the end: things like perfectionism, an almost obsessive attention to detail, working long hours to churn out meaningless corporate drivel, spending more time at the office than with our children, being made to feel guilty for taking vacation time we've earned, coming to work sick so as not to "fall behind" in productivity, coming in weekends to work on some ridiculous project, being technologically wired to be available 24/7 for work-related phone calls, e-mails, and texts, being addicted to our BlackBerry, actually bringing laptops with us to justify what is supposed to be a "relaxing" vacation, etc.

In short, if you want to know why we're all a bunch of Prozac-popping, caffeine-addicted, ulcer-having, morbidly obese, dysfunctional insomniacs with cheating spouses and kids on Ritalin, look no further than the ever-increasing, unreasonable demands of corporate America. It is sucking the will to live out of each and every one of us and making us fear for our jobs every time we make even the most imperceptible of mistakes. We strive for perfection because we are conditioned to believe that there's always someone out there who can do our work better, faster, and more accurately than we can, which makes us fear getting "downsized" to the point where we give up our lives, our REAL lives, to become drones for the Queen Bee that is the American Capitalist. If we stopped trying to measure up to Japan in terms of productivity and "the bottom line" and instead chose to emulate European countries where the motto is "work to live, not live to work," we may lose some revenue for the old, fat, rich, white men who control most of the nation's wealth, but I believe we could gain a whole new brand of optimism, physical and mental health, and balance for our citizens. Happy workers who are permitted to leave when the day's work is done, who are encouraged to take a three-hour lunch break, who are granted a "siesta" period, and who are practically forced into taking two weeks of vacation per year, would probably flourish. I bet we'd see a dramatic decrease in anti-depressant use. Maybe there would be a lower divorce rate and less alcohol abuse if people got to be well-rested, laid-back, and content. I believe that people would still do their very best to get their work done and done well, and without that ugly word, "stress," they probably would get it done better and faster, because it doesn't take a behavioral scientist to tell you that happy people who enjoy wht they do tend to do a better job. Sorry for the lengthy diatribe, but you asked why we're so freaked out about making mistakes, and I had to give you my whole reason why. I shall get off my soapbox now.

Answer 4

I thoroughly believe you i don't understand why we are like this i assume now and returned we get acrried away whilst gazing wrestling that as quickly as a wretsler comes and provides a bad overall performance we pass nuts and stars complaining. besides the indisputable fact that such as you reported wrestlers could sacrifice their bodies and now and returned their lives to make us happy. To each and all of the Jeff Hardy haters, the guy risked his existence distinctive cases leaping off of ladders doing risky spots. If he had by twist of destiny fallen incorrect, he ought to've dropped lifeless on the floor. To Cena haters, this guy works his *** off and is obsessed with what he does. Wretslers deserve extra useful therapy all I ever see is human beings praising adult adult males like AJ kinds and CM Punk for his or her in-ring skill, yet bashing different adult adult males who're much less experienced on the ring. each wrestler merits appreciate for doing their ultimate to entertain the followers.

Answer 5

everyone have his or her own opinions. for myself, i really never worry about things i've done wrong. cant be perfect.
make yourself happy and forget about how or what people think of you.
why cares?
yep, this is so selfish but someday you'll understand what i mean here.

Answer 6

Wow your an amazing thinker and writer. I don't know why we are like this......but, if anyone has an answer i would love to read it. Best of luck to you!