my aunt was given 3 months to live back in july. I called her yesterday and our phone conversations not what they use to be. I want to know and ask her so many questions is she scared, is she ok with this, has things been taken care of, how much pain is she in , i want her to know how much i love and will always love her. ect. I just came from seeing her since she is out of state, however i want to go back again. I just dont know if id be intruding on her family ect. She isn't blood related just one of those special people in your life you just want to claim them as yours.Her b-day is comng and they say she may not make it. should i send a gift and card ahead of time. When is it ok to ask for some of her belongings clothes and stuff.?
2007-10-09 02:01:34 · 18 answers · asked by cc 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
When is it ok to ask for some of her belongings clothes and stuff.? << Never. Sheesh. Some people.
2007-10-09 02:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by Runa 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry...I know how you feel. My aunt has cancer. Its ok to ask those questions. Just let her know how much you love her every time you can. If you want to go ahead and send her a gift or a card go ahead. Personally I dont think there is a good time to ask for something that belongs to her.
2007-10-09 02:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sounds bad, like she doesn't have much time left. If you can, spend time with her and let her know how much you love her before it is too late. My Grandmother died of lung cancer and I spent all the time I could with her at the end. We had grown really close over the last couple of years anyway. Towards the end it progressed to her bones and she was in alot of pain. She would be not all there because of all the medication. She would cough up big chunks of bloody meat and sounded really scratchy in her voice. She had to lay in the bed for the last months and could hardly move around in the bed. That was just not who she was before. We got her cards and hospital gowns as gifts since, that's all she could use at the time and was giving her material items away anyway. I hope you get to tell her goodbye. Be strong.
2007-10-09 02:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do tell her how much you love her..everyone needs to hear this.Tell her how special she has been to you, and how her friendship has improved your life. Tell her you wish she was blood related because she is like family to you.
You can send a card for her birthday, but don't ask for any of her things. She will see that the people she wants to have them..get them.
I would let her lead the conversations. It's not really helpful to discuss her fear, unless she wants to do that.
2007-10-09 02:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Eartha Q 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no time like now and be as direct and normal as you can. She is dying and its her last chance to know the 'real' you and herself. Don't cheat her out of that by being afraid to hurt her feelings. Even if you really P-ss her off, she'll feel more alive than she does now. I guarantee it. What's wrong with that? She may need to get that angry for her own well being. Lung Cancer sucks and so does dying when you aren't finished living.
2007-10-09 02:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by midnite rainbow 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should send her a card before it's too late!
I don't know whether the family will give you any of her belongings though - families can be a little strange when it comes to parting with stuff. You may just have to be content with your memories.
2007-10-09 02:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law died of lung cancer. It was very rough in the end but she had no pain. Don't ask for anything . I would send her a card and talk to her as much as you can. If you want to go see her do.
2007-10-09 02:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by K T 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is so weird that you would ask this,Yesterday my Grandmother died from lung cancer.I kinda lucked out in a way.My brother and I were taking turns taking care of her and yesterday was his turn.I stopped by to see her and she as real bad.She was screaming and waving her arms and refuseing to take her meds.Wile we were trying to get her to take her pills she bit my brother.We had to squirt lquid morphine in her mouth.My grandmother died yesterday at 430 pm.I was releaved to hear this.She was in so much pain,I'm so glad I don't have to see her suffer anymore.If you have any questions email me.
2007-10-09 02:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mother had lung cancer that spread to her liver...there is best or appropriate time to ask or even want for anything if you truly care about her.
Celebate her life now and cherish her as long as she is around.
2007-10-09 02:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end she.ll go into a coma and sleep till she expires
2007-10-09 02:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋