I have been married 6 years. He does not want sex, nor me. He walked out saying he wanted his freedom and didnt want me anymore. I found out he is living with a women he works with on his 2nd job. After a month he still cannot find himself. Should I give him more space or file for a divorce? He does not want me to be with anyone else but he will not take care of my needs either. He says he has not felt like having sex with me for a very long time. Im stuck?
2007-10-09 01:41:50 · 14 answers · asked by Tammy61 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um ya end it, I'm sry but once the sex stopped ur marriage did to, theres no need to wait around any women deserves better then that he obviously is done w/ the marriage now its time for u 2 be... and by u not wanting it either says the same for u "ur done w/ it too" move on and find urself a real man!!
2007-10-09 01:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by uloseallurmarbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He gave up all rights to your fidelity when he walked out on your marriage. He has violated his oath, betrayed you, doesn't own up for his actions, he goes so far as to blame you and yet he doesn't want you to see anyone else? He left you. I know this hurts you, and six years is nothing to sneeze at, yet the time has come to close this door. No more space,because that is bad for you. He is getting his needs met, while you anxiously hope the phone will ring. Time to wake up and smell the coffee. So, give your self permission to grieve the ending of your marriage, at the same seek support from friends and family, Counseling as a safe neutral place to be heard. Divorce is one of life's great stressors. Like a death, there is shock, disbelief, anger, sadness, grief, acceptance. In no particular order and often all at once. Take care of your heart, mind and spirit by accepting that you are valued. It really is his loss too. Take action on your behalf. Use the anger you feel to motivate you to take care of yourself, legally, financially, spiritually.
Be Of Good Courage
2007-10-09 09:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether to get a divorce or not is a hard decision you will have to make on your own. The questions you should ask yourself is: What do I want out of a relationship? Am I getting what I want? Do I sincerely think things will change? Is this relationship 50/50 or am I carrying it alone?. . . You have to remember that your needs are just as important as his. What has he done for you? . . If you want to save the relationship you need to go to counseling together. I highly recommend it. Just remember sweety: EVERYONE is entitled to a healthy, stable and loving relationship.
2007-10-09 09:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, you find him living with another woman acceptable and you are waiting for him to come home? And, then you say you're stuck? No. He's cheating on you, said he didn't want you anymore and you are only thinking about sex. File for divorce.
2007-10-09 08:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for a divorce and find a man that is a man and will take care of your needs. Obviously he is taking care of the other womans needs. You have to watch out for yourself.
When a man says he cant find himself, he just wants to go out and play and it's his way of keeping you holding on, which is what your doing. Let him go and get on with your life.
I'm sorry for your marriage but why be with a man that deosnt want to be with you?
Good LUck
2007-10-09 09:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children??? Either way i think that i would go ahead and file for divorce. If he does really love you and want to be with you then maybe that would put some fear in him the he may really loose you for good. if it dosent bother him then you would probably be better off divorce and being able to move on with your life and find someone who will love you and not treat you like that. i wish the best for ya!
2007-10-09 08:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not stuck. File for divorce and move on. He not only is keeping you hopeful that he will come back but, he is living with another woman. You need to move on for yourself. Find someone who will love you for you.
2007-10-09 08:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so this man is already involved with another woman when he's got his wife at home. you don't need to think much about it. he's just making simple and lame excuses (like he doesn't feel like having it with you...etc). all he wants is to live with his new partner. i think it's time to file a divorce, dear.
2007-10-09 08:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Wonderful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce, he left you and is now living with another woman, you deserve better than that.
2007-10-09 08:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't seem to be much there for you. He doesn't want you or sex with you and he's living with someone else. What else does he have to do for you to get the message? Time to move on, I'm afraid.
2007-10-09 08:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋