My wife & i have been together for 12 years. we met a girl 18. (10 years younger than me) we all hit it off straight away, after 3 months we wanted it to be exclusive to us. nearly 2 years later we are having a baby together. it's all about love. i don't beleve if we are all honest and loving there is a problem do you p.s. don't reply with fictional middle eastern religous answers.
2007-10-09 00:47:07 · 21 answers · asked by godhonesttruth 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't think there is a problem with polygamy at all. I feel its just as normal as being gay. A person can fall in love with more than one person at a time. The only thing that concerns is that all partners are okay with it. If one person isn't okay with it, I would think its possibly just as bad as cheating in some cases. That doesn't seem to be a problem though, so everything should be fine! If mormons can do it simply for sex, I think any other person can do it for the sake of truly loving someone.
2007-10-09 11:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kiefer H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that humans are hard-wired with a tendency towards jealousy. Even though there aren't any problems now, and it's already been 2 years, I wouldn't be surprised if jealousy rears its ugly head at some point - especially once a baby is involved.
That's not to say that it won't work. I think that the concept makes sense - love doesn't have to be exclusive. We have the capacity to love almost endlessly.
I personally could never do it, and do consider it to be morally wrong, however it is not my place to judge at all. I wish you the best of luck and love in the future.
2007-10-09 07:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by Wizzle 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 and I think that's too young, I believe your taking advantge of her, getting her into a mess. You should have lft that poor girl alone, now she's stuck in your and your wife twisted web. If you really loved your wife, you'd never do this
2007-10-09 09:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I believe that. Maybe you both needed a bit of excitement at that time. And now youve both realized what it is you want from each other again.
Relationships arent set in stone. People change with time and relationships change with time.
Just do what you feel is good for you both and to hell with what anyone else thinks!
2007-10-09 07:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by The Unborn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what I would want...way too much complication for me! Not to mention the fact that I simply don't have the energy or time to devote like that....but, if you are happy, and the others are happy and the baby is well cared for and happy...who am I to judge?
2007-10-09 08:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by mouse_726 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short for you to hang on other peoples opinions. As long and you and your ladies are happy and committed who gives a crap what anyone else thinks?
Best of luck to you all and here's to a healthy little one!
2007-10-09 07:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by Barbia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are really committed to this relationship, what does it matter what anyone else thinks? Obviously, you must be having some sort of second thought about it if you are asking complete strangers what we think.
I think it is fine if it works for you all. It wouldn't be my cup of tea, but I am not your wife.
2007-10-09 07:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say why not. I just know I couldn't allow that to happen in my house, but if all parties are okay with it then go for it. Congrats on the baby.
2007-10-09 09:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as everyone involve is an adult and understands the nature of the relationship, I say do what makes you happy.
2007-10-09 11:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
While it isn't common, I don't see anything wrong with a polyamorous relationship. If you all really love each other, and can make it work, good for you! Not everyone is so lucky, even in one on one relationships.
2007-10-09 07:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mari 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋