I'm 20 yrs old weigh 39kgs and 5.2ft tall. I don't like to eat anything. I've been skinny all the time. Both my parents are doctors. Other people do seem to care about me and when they tell it to them -What my parents answer is that she doesn't eat. That's it. I agree its my fault but i've told them 100 times i don't like to eat. I'm a medical student myself and i know its psychological and a form of anorexia and definitely not figure conscious one. After begging for hours my mom agreed to get my thyroid test done which was normal. But they don't care about me at all. I'm now living in hostel and getting weaker. All they say is start eating. Its so easy to say for her. Why does she not realize how difficult it is for me.
2007-10-09 00:10:13 · 12 answers · asked by Angelisnear 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You are an adult, it's time you took responsibility for your own problems. What do you expect your parents to do? Force feed you? You have a medical condition and it would be unethical for your doctor parents to treat their own child. Or do you just want non-stop attention and sympathy? I fail to see why you are angry at them for saying the problem is that you don't eat, when you say yourself that's exactly what the problem is!
I'm quite sure your mum knows how difficult it is for you. I'm equally sure that, as a doctor, she knows full well that coaxing and nagging you to eat is a complete waste of her time and yours, and will only lead to ill-feeling between you. I'm afraid she is doing the right thing by allowing you to be an adult and insisting you stand on your own two feet. Your mum cannot fix this for you, no matter how much attention she gives you. Only you can do that - and the only way you can do it is by eating. Whether you want to or not.
2007-10-09 00:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are skinny all the time, maybe your parents accepted a long time ago that this is just how you are, and do not see that perhaps it has turned into a real condition. Sometimes we are blind to the problems closest to us. It is probably easier for people outside the situation.
You know you need help. That is obvious. Please do not try to make a point to your parents by waiting until you end up in the hospital. It isn't worth your health. Please call a clinic or anorexia hotline to get help.
Being a student is lonely and stressful. And living in a hostel cannot be fun for anyone. Realize that it is normal to feel this way, but yes you do deserve medical attention. It would be better if you were living in a dorm or with friends. Not to take care of you, but to be there for emotional support.
Things will get better, I promise, but take care of your body now so you will be around for things to get better. I would hug you if I was around. Now go and do something to help!! Off with you!
2007-10-09 02:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by allforone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am concerned when you say you are a medical student.From what I understand the demands of a student in your program are both physically and emotionally exhausting.I would suggest you take a leave of absence from your program ,if at all possible, in order to take care of your health needs.I think your parents feel powerless to help you.It is always difficult to address the problems of our children,it is far easier to deal with the issues of people who are strangers to us.I believe an eatting disorder clinic would be more helpful and supportive of you than a hostel.If you do not address this eatting disorder now you may not have a future.Make the decision to help yourself, for you, not anyone else.You have to learn to love yourself enough to take the first step in changing your life.You are intelligent enough to know that eatting disorders are not treated quickly but you must make an effort to regain control in your life.Emotional issues cannot be willed away or ignored.I wish you luck in your steps towards recovery.Take care.
2007-10-09 05:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now your are 20 years old which means you are an adult so you need to take initiative. See a doctor yourself. Try eating smaller meals throughout the day. One serving type meals a few times a day just to get you started. You may not be hungry but at least you will be eating something.
2007-10-09 04:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by al l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 20 there is very little your parents can do. You need to sort this out yourself and since it sounds like you don't really want help from your parents then a clinic that specializes in anorexia would be a better place to stay than the hostel.
2007-10-09 00:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by clint_slicker 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
With both of your parents being doctors I am sure they are very busy. This does not excuse their lack of interest in your situation. First, I think you need to seek some counselling around your inability to eat. If you understand why you can't bring yourself to eat other things will fall into place. It never fails to amaze me that parents can seem so uncaring towards their children especially parents that are in a helping profession as your parents are. You need to look after you FIRST and then tackle the "parents" situation. There is a saying, "You need a license to have a dog, but you don't to be a parent".
2007-10-09 06:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you are 20 years old and still want your parents to tell you what to do..?
So you are 20 years old and have to beg your mother to get your thyroid tested, as if you could not go do it by yourself.
So you are 20 years old and can not make yourself eat, even tho knowing it will make you better.
So you are 20 years old and can not at least drink soup or liquids that will fill you up and make you heather.
Yep, I see a problem there.
2007-10-09 00:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you are 20 years old. they want you to live your own life. you can no longer depend on them. you are not a dependant anymore.
on your tax return you dont file dependent anymore. you know what that makes you?? INDEPENDANT!!!!
you want a thyroid test go to the doctor and make an appointment yourself
2007-10-09 00:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Catholic 14 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to get help for your anorexia- take the responsibility, your parents can't force you to be well, only you can do it.
2007-10-09 00:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by magy 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
it's time for you to make your own decisions and use your head. if what you're saying is true that you are a medical student isn't that enough for you to know why you should eat... or are you still breast feed...? please act as you're 20..
2007-10-09 01:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by [275] 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋