My parents were killed in a car crash 5 years ago this month, when i was 18. Im now 23, engaged, bought my house (the house i lived in with my mum dad and sister), been with my fiance for 3 and half years, both got good jobs, and now 11 weeks pregnant. We're not going to find out if its a boy or girl, but i want to name it Carla Angela if its a girl after my mum and Charlie Anthony if its a boy after my dad. (Charlie - male version of Carla, Anthony is my dads name)
Do you think thats a good idea? Would they be proud of me do you think? X
2007-10-08 23:48:39 · 41 answers · asked by Happy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Chrissy: my mums middle name was Angela. but thats a fantastic idea about Antonia, i never thought of that. But i do like the though of having ANGELa - because i'm having a little angel!! - how soppy am i?!!! ..... dont answer that!
2007-10-09 00:09:31 · update #1
They would be proud of you whatever the names of your little ones.
You do what you think is right. Best of luck
2007-10-08 23:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Usually I am not overly keen on naming children after somebody else as I feel that they are little individuals with their own unique blueprint - saying that, taking into account your situation and the history surrounding the horrific loss of your ma and pa I think it is a beautiful and honourable gesture.
I think that I would probably name them with a name that means the same meaning, or at least uses the same initials or maybe as a middle name. That way, you are remembering your parents but your babba will still have it's own unique identity.
My mother and fathers names are Jean and John and my middle name is Jayne - therefore, my eldest daughters middle name is Jaye, after the letter J which stands for most things I hold dear!
You could consider a number of options and can be as creative as you want without cutting your mum and dad out - Anonia Carla is another version or Anton Charles adds another variant but then again you could even use your child's intials in rememberance of your parents. Cian, Charla, etc are all names which incorporate both your parents names but also gives your child their own unique name.
I feel so sorry for you and your loss, no matter how long ago it happened - a girl needs a mother figure for baby time and a daddy figure for boyfriend time - lol - just keep in mind that they would be overjoyed and sooooooo very proud of you and all you and your partner's achievements if they were here with you now but - hey, who knows what goes on afterwards - if they are looking down, they will still feel the same.
Congratulations and remember that although babies just ooze out signals to be spoilt, you are the boss, you can still do many things that you did pre babba time, don't panic and consider your partners feelings!
You sound a sincere and lovely person so I'm sure you have many people around you who can mimic your mother - if not, please feel free to get in touch with me!
Another little word before I win the award of The Longest Bore ever, when in labour, listen to the midwife and do what they say, even if you really could rip their flaming heads off; keep eye contact with your partner when things are making you feel as though you cannot do it and start panicking, and order your other half to stop you from panicking if you are losing it a little. There's nothing wrong with a long, hard gulp of the gas and air, coupled with intent emotional eyecontact with the father of your joint creation and pure, common sense wisdom from the midwives.
I had a terrible time with my first baby, due to my first partner running out when the going go tough and me panicking and getting carried away and refusing all pain relief just so that I could show people I could do it - Bollocks, putting it politely, my second and third births were wonderful, a truly amazing experience where discomfort was minimal and the closeness with my partner hit a new realm! Sounds really, really, soppy but it is true. When I did swear, panic, etc, he pulled both my hands up to his face, looked me square in the eye and told me to stop panicking, do what your told, you're doing brilliant, your amazing - it was brilliant and I would definately say that I would far more prefer to spend twenty hours plus in labour giving birth than have to go through even a week of bloody pregnancy. LOL. Take Care.
Enjoy!
2007-10-12 16:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Banshee Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a wonderful idea, I am sure they would be very proud. Can I just ask, is your mothers middle name Angela. Only for a boy you have the masculine of your mums name and Anthony after your dad. I think Carla Antonia would be nice for a girl. Your mums name and the feminine of your dad's.
2007-10-08 23:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Dory 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-19 22:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly sorry for your heartache.
Secondly, Why not honey. However, It is not really a question if they would be proud when making the choice. Only you, your partner and when you tell your child when the little darling is older; would know the reason for the naming. Being a mum myself, I know. Your parents would be proud either way. I am sure you will make the right decision xo
2007-10-09 00:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My second name is Alicia, my Mother was Alice, Her mother was Eliza, Gt. grandmother was Elizabeth, and Gt. Gt. grandmother was Alicia, too. My grandson is Alex.
I love it - makes me feel really part of a long family tradition and that we are honouring the ancestors.
In my father's family there is a William in every generation back to the 1500's.
Had I been a boy, I was to be called Charles after my maternal grandfather, with James William, after paternal grandfather.
I think that yours is a lovely idea and I'm sure your children will be very pleased when they are old enough to understand.
Congratulations, by the way and I wish you a long life to enjoy your family.
2007-10-09 00:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you name your kids your parents would be proud! If you and your husband like those names then go for it. If not you shouldn't feel obligated to name them after your parents. There are many other ways you could honor your mom and dad. Good luck and sorry about your loss!
2007-10-09 01:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Shayna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. I'm sorry to hear about your parents.
i think it is very Honourable that you are wanting to call your bub after your late parents.
i really like both names, especially since they have such a "close to the heart" meaning. (even if they aren't exactly the same name, the variants are a good idea)
i think your parents would be so proud to see what a beautiful person you are growing to be!!
Take care
2007-10-09 00:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by gemstarbabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a great idea, and they're lovely names. But I'd go with Charles Anthony and just call him Charlie, so he has something to use on formal documents.
2007-10-09 15:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Caitlin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly congratulations at your pregnancy i am sure your new baby will bring you loads of happiness and make up for the sad times you have had in recent years
i think it is great to use your parents names but i would use them as middle names and let the baby have his/her own identity more
it is your and your fiances choice - i am more than sure your parents are very proud of you and are watching over you and the little one
good luck with everything
2007-10-09 10:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by cornyginger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya, I have given my children names from relatives deceased and living, Eleanor Dawn, Dawn after me, Daniel Thomas Brian, Thomas after my Dad, Brian after my Hubs father who died in1998 and James John Andrew, James was after my uncle who died whilst I was carrying, John after Hubs step dad and Andrew is my Hub so all my childrens names have been linked to relatives, I am pregnant with my 4th baby and have made a list of names to choose from, Di-Ann is my mum Dianne and hubs mum who is Pauline Ann, not fussed on Pauline so using Ann instead, the boys names are a mixture of my dads middle name and my brothers, rattle on a bit dont I??? lol XXXXX p.s your mum and Dad will be proud whatever you call the babs xxx
2007-10-09 00:02:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋