I have bpd, but i want to know?

Question

what does it mean when people can easily confuse you about who you are, and cause you to think that who you are is ' their ' interpretation of you, like, how they say you are?

and how do you not let people do this to you?




they can cause you to think you don't know who you are...

i know that borderlines have a shaky sense of self...could it be this that maybe other certain people can easily exploit?

Answer 1

it's because you are already confused, by people who abused you and you don't understand if you caused it, or just a victim of their hatred and cruelty...You need to learn how to have faith in yourself, and tell everyone else, that accept you the way you are, or go about their own business...By the way, my computer has crashed big time, or I would have been able to answer many of your questions..keep the faith darlin

Answer 2

If you are being nasty or blame-shifting to another person they are not required to see that as *nice* and have the right to say so. There is nothing confusing about that unless you have allowed people to bluff you or fool you into thinking it's right or *civil* behavior. If that is the case you are allowing people to tell you not to get along with anyone or making the choice not to. Usually when someone has a problem they work on solutions instead of seeking excuses.

As far as people labeled with "borderline" personality disorder their negative choices are to pit people against each other. It is chosen behavior to dilberately "exploit" people via being dishonest so start trouble - also known as making false statements - so in no way are being or doing an innocent act towards another. A person cannot be innocent while trying to start chaos at the same time despite what anyone imagines and to say they don't know what they are doing then brag about it is self-validation. Again people are not required to *like* or *approve* of such treatment. That behavior is not kind behavior and to say so is false. In fact, to "exploit" the safety and/or spiritual well being of other people, including relationships between people by telling lies is bad. It is also very wrong *use a label as an excuse*.

Answer 3

It can be difficult to avoid this area. Those who are able to manipulate someone will find that hitting "triggers" on Bipolars will find it very easy to get what you want.

Unfortunately, the other part of how they see you will probably never change. It is what it is, and how it will probably remain for decades. Based upon what people see on TV and read in Newspapers, magazines they automatically assume that like alcoholics we all act the same and have the same issues with our disease. This is obviously not true and can be hard to get others to understand. I have been trying for several decades Good Luck..J.