Anyone here wants to share the pros and cons of having an affair. Also any experiences that may be of advice
2007-10-08 23:11:44 · 12 answers · asked by govinjann 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First and foremost there is a very good answer to your question. The fact of the matter is there is def no good pro to having a affair. What it really does in the end is hurt everyone. IF you truly feel you need to be with someone else then simply you can do one of two things.. Talk with your spouse and find out if there is anything that the two of you can do to fix whatever is missing in your marriage. Then if it is not fixable then seperate and go on with your life. Though the idea of being with someone in a affiar situation is a turn on for alot of people believe me i know.........even as a female i have been there done that.......however in the end i almost lost oeverything..........so if your not ready to lose what you have then try and fix it.........and if its not fixable both of you go on with your lives and find what it is that will make you both happy.......good luck
2007-10-08 23:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by busy_softball_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pros -- Some excitement and perhaps better sex than you get at home; you could learn to be more affectionate or other new things (find that "inner you") that you could bring home to your spouse; maybe the affair will provide you with something you're missing at home, such as intimacy or laughs. This could make you a happier person.
Cons -- You better be a good liar and make sure that your lover is on the same page as you (preferably, you're both in similar situations), and have the discipline to not make it a daily thing but only once in a long while. It's not for everyone!
2007-10-09 16:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kyle W 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was involved in an affair a few years ago. Even though I didn't know she was married until a week after the first time we were together, it still bothered me for years. DON'T DO IT. Karma will bite you and it doesn't let go. Walk away from the temptation. It may seem fun until it gets ugly. Please don't do it.
2007-10-09 06:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by srmcguirt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pros.... something is telling you that your not happy with the relationship your in.
Cons.... you'll have to decided if it's best to end the relationship or forget about the affair.
2007-10-09 14:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by jbolt5491 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no advantages from my experience, I felt guilty. fell in love with the other person, knowing they would never leave their wife, I was alone on all holidays and while they went on vacations. ended up being a waste of 3 years
2007-10-09 06:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pros - none
Cons - you become a liar, a cheater and totally untrustworthy. None of which I consider good qualities.
2007-10-09 06:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good but you gotta remember one rule. DO NOT fall in love. It will only end bad. So if you think you cant control your feelings or the other person cant, then its time to end it.
2007-10-09 07:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pros: adds the zing to life for either gender
cons: feel sorry for the better half...........and definitely for the 3rd person who has to play 2nd fiddle....
2007-10-09 06:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by annette 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe instead of cheating you can spice up your current sex life? Toys, porn, and making free time can do wonders for a woman in terms of sex.
2007-10-09 10:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PROS U GET MORE ACTION AND A VARIETY. CONS U LOSE UR SPOUSE AND POSSIBLY KIDS AND WILL HAVE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT. ITS WORTH THE RISK THO.
2007-10-09 06:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋