Why can't he just leave it its in the past, what would u do if u was him after all theses years?

Question

I don't know how to say this but I think I done something silly , this boy loved me for me and I ask him out but at the time I was only making fun out of him and then I went out with this guy name chris and we used to wait for him outside his home in front of his door waiting for him to come out or come back from school we all was same ages and me and my BF used to french kiss each other ever day for 2 full years so he can see it and then we cost him 1 year of his school cause he wanted to get his own back of what we was doing to him , anyway it went to court and he won us. 7 years later I saw him and we both looked into each others eyes and he still look hurted but same time he still look so mad at me. after all this time why can't he just drop it ! and if I see him again what should I say cause it wasn't just me ! I looked into his eyes after 7 years and I saw him being so mad but same time he given me abit of soft look but before all of that 7 years ago I called his mother a fat cow

anyway truth is we made is life hell my bf ant at a house right next doors to him and I went to her house and he saw me and she always used to shout at it! we got the teachers of school to believe us evertime he tryed to tell the teachers I asked him out they used to shout at him and we turn everone on to him and also got him to be put inside of a cell and got him in trouble by the police cause he used to write letters to me so we got him in trouble. and he almost killed himself , but now i heard hes going to join the police I mean what happens also if he gets his own back on me, anyway we was 14 and 15 and 16 when all of this was happing, but i didn't know we made him watch us have sexally actings

Answer 1

For one, your post made my eyes hurt.

Secondly, if this is real and not some childish prank, what you did to this person was not a simple "mistake," you were very cruel and I have absolutely no sympathy for you whatsoever.

Even more disgusting, is that fact that you're not concerned out of remorse, you're concerned only because he may become a police officer.

It seems you haven't change and you're are a person of ill character.

But I have a feeling this person has something you don't and that's integrity, it is unlikely he will waste his on you.

Answer 2

You've begun to realise that when you bully someone there are consequences that might affect your life as well at a later date. You're more worried that now he's about to become a policeman, he may make trouble for you. There's not an ounce of compassion in your statement about him and what happened to him directly because of YOUR behaviour.

Why don't you actually take some responsibility for your past bullying? I don't see anything in your question to suggest that you are actually sorry. You just want him to leave it in the past as you're scared he might give you a hard time when he becomes a cop.

What you did to him was APPALLING.

No sympathy from me. Grow up.

Answer 3

Have you ever heard the saying whats goes a round comes a round...id keep watching over your shoulder if i were you if his going to join the police then his going to get you back in his own time not yours. oh and by the way you sound like the DEVIL pure EVIL that's what you are. how you ruined someones life is pure disgraceful..you may not have been the only one BUT YOU STARTED IT ALL!!! that's what sticks out most. you could of stopped but NO you had to go the full mile.

Answer 4

Guess what? You were a terrible person. You went out of your way to torment a person & tried to ruin his life. You not only did this once, but several times & he actually had to take you little sh*ts to court in order to get you to leave him alone. It doesn't matter if he was mental or not- you tried to hurt someone. Just because you messed with his mind & didn't try to physically hurt him doesn't make it any less wrong. If he had died from committing suicide it would have haunted you for the rest of your life, possibly even ruining it.

Now you are thinking that you did something bad & you are starting to feel guilty about it. Good. You hurt this person just as much as a person can. Just because you were young doesn't make it ok. You can't just claim that you didn't know what you were doing, because you did. You all knew what you were doing all too well.

I think that you need to go see a therapist & tell them all of this, because honestly? I think there is something wrong with people who get their fun from hurting other people. In my opinion people who get their fun from making fun of other people & making their lives miserable like this are no better than people who go around hurting animals or committing crimes.

Maybe it's too late or too soon for you to apologize, but you need to eventually. Right now you need to stop making excuses for yourself & realize that you were a bad person-- but you don't need to be a bad person now. You can take the first step to becoming a better person & admit that what you did was wrong & try to make it right.

Answer 5

You have amaze me no end! Would you feel the way you do now if you had not found out he is applying to be a policeman? Now you are afraid that he might do the revenge thing? No, i think not. After what you had put him through, Angry? hell YES! Whatever, he is a better person than you in anyway. My opinion, you should be doing a lot of apologising, not only to him alone. And you better start now.

Answer 6

Yes, you were young. But, you did what you did. Now, you want him to forget that you deliberately made his life hell. I doubt that will happen. There is nothing you can do to change the past. All you can do is accept that you've hurt him needlessly, and vow to never do anything like that again. Any pain or remorse you live with is your burden. Everything we do, carries consequences. Learning that is part of growing up.

Answer 7

What you did was terrible! You had hurt that guy thoroughly and if it was me, I would also be as mad as him after 7 years or even madder. You even call his mother, a fat cow!

If I were you, I would apologise SINCERELY. That's the only way to solve it that had been on for over 7 years.

Answer 8

You reap what you sow. You cost this person a lot of his life. You can't actually expect him to have any respect for you after what you did? That was cruel and you deserve anything that you get. I know that at 14 years old I knew the difference between right and wrong, and I am sure you did too! At the very least, you should apologize to him and let him know that you realize that what you did to him was cruel and very wrong. I could not live with myself if I did not at least try.

Answer 9

You are nothing but a bully and you deserve everything you get. What a childish, stupid thing to do to someone. Why did you pick on him and what on earth did he ever do to you to make you do this to him. I hope he joins the police and makes your life hell because you deserve it. You should think about saying sorry to him, because you are a horrible human being.

Answer 10

Go to bed child and dont climb on mommy's or daddies pc anymore , this is for people with real problems who've suffered through a divorce sheesh talk about NO respect.grow up.