Or just an unfavorable truth?
For example:
"You need get a job, take some risks...and stop being such a lazy, coward."
2007-10-08 20:46:26 · 13 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
need *to get a job...
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2007-10-08 20:48:09 · update #1
ERIN W: Hey girl...
It is just an example, Sweetie...
Substitute "Lazy" for "Selfish"...
Or whatever word you choose...
I was just wondering...
2007-10-08 20:59:19 · update #2
There is a difference between the truth , the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, and lawyers use this difference all the time to insult opposing witnesses, to bate them into saying things they might not otherwise say.
"An unfavorable truth" is nothing more than the negative spin you can put on a given set of facts.
Basically, it is an insult.
I can't really see that comment in anyway motivating someone to change, and they sure aren't going to be happy you said it to them. That now becomes their image of you and how much you care about them. You think they are a shiftless, lazy coward. You better believe that just makes them feel fantastic.
It just doesn't work that way.
When you focus on the negative, they see you being critical of them. When you focus on the positive, they see you trying to make them feel better.
How do you want them to see you?
I would want them to see you as positive.
So "Yes" lazy and coward would be insults especially if afterwards you insisted that they were "the truth" and not just one possible truth.
2007-10-08 21:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what people tell me. I will tell you the truth, I am not lazy. I have a very good reason I am the way I am. I know my limitations and the way I pace myself and am sick of judgemental people who are well and of sound mind telling me this.
I have been through more trauma and illness than the average person and I too have goals and am a person. Just because you have the drive to get ahead, not all people do.
I don't believe anyone is lazy. They have very good reasons for being as they are.
As the saying goes, do not judge a person till you walk a mile in their shoes.
2007-10-09 03:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Janina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess Laziness or Selfishness or whatever it is isnt as bad as saying a truth like "You're fat" or "You stink" - something which describes a physical attribute.
Over where I live, ppl say they're lazy all the time, so it's nothing much to feel insulted abt
2007-10-10 10:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by sugarscamp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Still it's an insult. You should know that the most hurting insult is when you are told the truth you yourself want to hide. There are a lot of ways to tell him/her anyway without letting him/her felt being insulted. Try to practice empathy. Empathy is your ability to put yourself in the shoes of another. If you will practice this you will know whether what you say is hurting or not.
2007-10-09 03:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by ron 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, if someones says someting to me in this fashion the only time I get my feelings hurt or feel insulted is if I happen to agree with them. If you said, "you are thief, I saw you stealing in Saks", I would not be offended because I would know it was not true. But if you said something that I might just believe is true about myself then that is when I am apt to get hurt.
As far as your question, it may be the truth about someone, but you can hurt someone with the truth. It may be necessary to confront them, but everyone should be approached with kindness & love, using good timing. It is only a insult if your intent is to hurt & not really help. When I must confront someone I love, I measure my words, & always offer solutions to the problem also, trying to ensure that they know I am trying to help with what I see as a crippling issue, not just insult them.
I can't imagine you ever being insulting, you just do not come across this way. I believe that inquiring minds just want to know. Thanks! (((HUG)))
2007-10-10 09:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfavorable truth.
2007-10-09 03:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insults can't 'get in' unless you leave an opening for them. Never allow some on else's opinion become more valuable than your own. YOU are the one who has to live with it.
2007-10-10 09:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by midnite rainbow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I told my husband (now my ex) that he was just a piece of ****; wanna be; has been mother ******, and now he is! Go figure! The Lord always did answer my prayers; he ought not mess with me; and that whore who thought she took something from me is finding out that I got everything but his bones!
2007-10-09 04:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by dotell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she/he is really lazy they don't need to hear it,or the became worse.
2007-10-09 04:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by Snowy.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, that's not an insult. it is just a fact, the statement of a real fact
2007-10-09 05:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by farhire 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋