2007-10-08 19:08:55 · 25 answers · asked by yvett_dm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
think about it this way...if you did give him a second chance would you ever trust him or love him the way you did before? If it were me I know that I could never handle it . It would just break my heart and if it were repeated I would feel really stupid. It has happened to me (with a bf not husband) and I just feel you lose soo much in the relationship. It depends on the circumstances and how strong your bond is with him.
2007-10-08 19:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by Z E 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes and No! How come? Yes based on circumstances on what you contribute toward to marriage, are you giving him sufficient time and pleasure that a man demands in a married life, then you need to ask this question from yourself. What intimacy is he demanding in married life and where you have lacked in. Keep working at it, marriage is not meant to be cheated on in any sense. Find the root cause by confronting him and letting him know how deeply you have been hurt and the promise made by him prior to marriage, do you have children from this marriage and how long have you been married is another question? Wether it be a long marriage or short time in the marriage it is forbidden to have an outside relationship with anyone, then again religion plays a major role in marriage and you need to take him to a marriage counsellor. You need to discuss with him what gave him the urge to do such a thing. There are probable cases where a man would want to find out the difference of what his wife offers him to that of another. This should not be the case, but when the two of you are in the game of love-making one needs to be very sensitive of the need of the other, maximum pleasure should be share between the two and one should not hold back sincere love for one or the other. Communication is the best way to set about with it, do not redicule him he may have his reasons though it may not be legitimate. Accept them with an open heart, but of course commitment to marriage would find no need for a second happening. Above all keep praying and do not do the opposit to spite him because you could damage yourself and be exploited by the unknown.
2007-10-09 03:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by conrad_vt 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm male, but I'm answering because I think your question is worth a response with the genders reversed, and if you were talking about giving a wife a second chance.
I know that I will kick up a hornets' nest with my opinion, but here goes anyway.
If a cheater is a low-life guy, just looking for cheap sex and hedonistic thrills, then there is no question. Get rid of him.
Sometimes, men (and women too) cheat because they are not happy at home. I don't know. They feel used. They don't feel listened to. They don't feel valued. Whatever.
Before anyone decides to get rid of an unfaithful husband (or wife) it is very important to ask yourself, in a real soul-searching kind of way):
WAS THERE ANYTHING I DID OR DIDN'T DO THAT CONTRIBUTED TO THE SITUATION?
Then and only then can you make a decision about what to do.
I'm not saying that cheaters are not responsible for their own behaviour, but I believe that nobody ever does anything for no reason. Sometimes a lousy reason (I was just horny and she had big ....), sometimes a weak and foolish reason, and sometimes a good reason.
So, to answer your question. I don't know. It depends.
2007-10-09 03:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the reason(s), and how long you have been in your marriage. If you have been married for 15+ years and this is the first time that you are aware of, or if this is the first time he has been caught. Be true to yourself as only you know whether it is the first time. If he shares the reason and is open to you and/or counseling, then give him a chance, although the road will not be easy. If the other, then cut your losses. Good luck, be smart.
2007-10-09 02:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can I ask you a question. If you husband cheated once., how are you going to truly trust him, I gave my husband 3 chances and all 3 chances flew out the window. His friends even told me you can't change a cheater. I didn't listen to "his" friends. Wished that I would of now. So if you think you can change him you can't. If you think you can't trust him again, you can't. Yes leave his sorry #$@ cause you deserve better and there are lots of men out there that will treat your better. Good luck to you!
2007-10-09 10:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by jennajade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go through the answer directory and you'll find 99% of us have answered this questions a million time's , NO , I wont give him a 2nd chance , he is still fighting to get me back but wont appologise or attempt to give me reason to trust him or take him back so why should I?
2007-10-09 03:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Wife cheated on Me and I forgave Her. Then I forgave Her a second time. Then I forgave Her again......Eventually I just could not be bothered. Draw a line in the sand RIGHT NOW! If You want Him, keep Him. If You don't feel in the mood to play 'His' silly games...........You know what to do, move on!
2007-10-09 02:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try never to get married because I don't want to be in that situation! If I did accidentally end up with a husband, then yeah I expect I'd ditch him immediately if I found out he cheated.
2007-10-09 02:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
HELLS NO!!!!!!!!! Cheating is an automatic divorce for my husband and I. He knows that we could work anything out , except cheating, there is no bargaining with that one.
2007-10-09 02:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by Me 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope. He knows that, i know that, we both knew that before getting married. No excuse for cheating. None! Not one! Get my drift?? lol.
2007-10-09 03:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋