My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage for a while now. I know he plans on asking me, I'm pretty sure he even has the ring. But there is a long standing traditionin my family that the man must ask the girl's father for her hand in marriage before proposing. My parents both love my boyfriend a lot. But I don't know how to go about telling my boyfriend about the tradition without actually telling him.
2007-10-08 18:40:49 · 24 answers · asked by torn cynic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd suggest that you just tell him about the tradition in the family, and that you would like to keep it going. He should understand. If he knows they love him ,it would be no problem. He has to find out one day. :)
2007-10-08 18:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie, 'Knocked Up.' When the bonehead proposes 3/4 way through the movie with an empty box, say, "It's always been a tradition in my family that the guy asks my father before they propose." Point Blank. Be silent after that. Very matter-of-fact. He will get the picture and the humor of movie will take the edge off. If you've already seen the movie, or your boyfriend hates it, just watch it again. Or 'Meet The Parents.'
2007-10-08 18:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a sister or a brother who has been married or is engaged tell your boyfriend about when your sisters other half asked your dad or something.
Or find a movie where it is a tradition there, and watch it with your boyfriend and say something like "That's how my family does it, too!" or something like "That's so sweet/romantic, that's how I'd like to be proposed to."
2007-10-08 18:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by sKa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the tradition, it sounds like it shouldn't be a problem since your boyfriend gets along with your parents.
2007-10-08 18:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that hard.... bring it up very casually.... talk about how much you admire your parents and how old fashion they can be at times.... say " My dad even expects a guy to ask for him for his daughters hand in marriage" tell him you realize that not many parents are like that anymore but you really admire that in them.
2007-10-08 18:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by DavidV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of respect my father would like you to ask for my hand in marriage.
2007-10-08 18:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has to come out of him, if he knows of this tradition and feels comfortable then he will do it, if not then i guess you have to accept that marriage is all about change :D
2007-10-08 18:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can think of two ways. first if he does propose to you tell him that you want to but he has to ask your Dad before you can say yes. Second, bring it up in an everyday conversation. Subtly bring it up and see how he reacts to it.
2007-10-08 18:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just tell him its not like it is going to be offensive or ne thing.... make it a joke if you dont feel comfortable... like if you start talking abotu marriage be like... you know you have to ask my parents permission right...? and you could joke around with it, even if you have to... he will eaither be like... yeah i know, or he will be like I DO... and then you explain to him it is a tradition and that alot of familys do that... and etc etc.... i am sure he will understand.
2007-10-08 18:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by nessie86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you bf is a mind reader, there is no way for him to know this is a tradition in your family unless you tell him. You can tell him in a joking way but if you feel this need to be done...you need to let him know...
2007-10-08 18:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by missyj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋