I m married. My ex cheated on me. He cries even me too. He miss me and I too. I m married to my husband and I get irritated with him. My ex said, he made a mistake and now time has gone far. He asked me to be thr for him. And we both will live like this. What shd I do? I really love him. I am not sure why married before I recovered from the break up. what shd I do?
2007-10-08 18:30:24 · 20 answers · asked by jenni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont know, everything looks so confused. My ex cant marry me because he does nt want me to break the marriage I guess. But he says he he lost, he is paying for that. Does it happen to all the people who cheat?
2007-10-08 18:57:04 · update #1
he just wants to get laid without the hassle of actually being in a real relationship with you. if he was cheating before it wasnt that real to him to begin with.
2007-10-08 21:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by thehottestbradpitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not have married too soon after a break up but you should not go back with the ex either. He can dry all he wants but he made the choice. you are not drying for the man who cheated on you, but for the man you thought he was.
Try to work out your problems with you husband and get some counseling but that may not work because you were not over the break up yet. If you do divorce your husband, let it be because you married too soon after the break up and were not ready yet for marriage but don't go back with the ex unless you don't mind that he cheats on you.
2007-10-09 01:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he came to a realisation that he really loves you.. but sad to say: its too late already!!! Since you are married, why not try to work with your relationship to your husband... I guess you get married because you love the guy.. Not unless you just want to show your EX how stupid he was for leaving you... HE deserves what he gets!!! just work-on on your present life and move on... Put a closure on your relationship with your X and be happy with your present man..
2007-10-09 02:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by naks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not normally say this sort of thing to a married person, but in your case, I would advise you to follow your heart. If your heart says to break the 2nd marriage and be with #1, then I would do it. I suspect the 2nd man took some advantage of your weakened condition to get you to marry him in the first place.
2007-10-09 02:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well tell your husband because if you are still having feelings for your ex, and he's pursuing you despite the fact that you are married, your husband should know. I know it's hard to tell your husband, but he deserves to know. And who knows, you might work things out, or you might end up with your ex, but at least you gave your husband and your marriage a fair shot. Not to mention the heartache you would save everyone if you just came clean and put everything on the table for everyone.
2007-10-09 01:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should forget about the ex WHO CHEATED ON YOU!! i had an ex who cheated and he was trying to get back in my life, and at the point, god sent me an angel, my husband. i know that you probably should have waited to heal, but even so i wouldnt pursue anything with a cheater, he will do it again. and cheaters do feel bad and guilty, but it doesnt seem to stop them from doing it again. i stayed in that joke of a relationship for four years, so i am just speaking from experience. take responsibility for your actions, your choices, and take your marriage seriously. tell your ex to go cry to someone else. trust me , he will get over you.
2007-10-09 01:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by serafina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell your husband how you feel and if he loves you he will understand and let you go so you can be happy. Because when someone loves someone else they will do anything so that person can be happy no matter what. Even if it takes letting them go. If you realy love your ex try and be together because true love doesnt come just like that. If your not smart it can slip away from you and there is no turning back. GOOD LUCK
2007-10-09 01:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tough one. I think you probably are irritated with your husband for not being your ex. I would try to make things work with my husband and cut off all contack with my ex. everyone wants something that is unattainable think about it your married and your ex rather consciously or not wants to have that control that he has lost to your hubby. I wouldn t trust a cheater. focus your energy on your marriage.
2007-10-09 01:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP! Why do I read all of these young women torn between relationships - when they have NO relationship with themselves?
Child, RUN - don't walk - to your nearest community college, hairdresser school or GED class and become someone all by yourself.
Then, and only then, can you make a good choice about the rest.
2007-10-09 01:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married already. Your ex cheated on you! How do you know he will not cheat again??
Stay with your husband and tell your ex to stop contacting you.
2007-10-09 01:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋