About three weeks ago my girlfriend of seven years and I moved in together. On saturday night, she came out of nowhere and said that something was missing and she needed some time to think. This hit me out of the blue, she said that she still loves me but doesn't know if she loves me enough to last forever. We're not kids, were both getting close to thirty. The strangest thing about this was that she was spending alot of time bothering me about when we were going to get engaged this summer, and at one point came to me crying thinking that I would never ask her. I've been planning her engagement for over a year and was trying to keep it a suprise, but I did tell her soon. I just don't know if this is her getting scared of the future, or if there is someone else, or something that I haven't thought about. I'm trying to give her space for now, but if someone is willing to walk away of seven very eventful years that quick I'm not sure I should be with them. I need some advice.
2007-10-08 18:30:16 · 10 answers · asked by doodad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if she can do that then you are better off with out her so you need to move on and find happeyness good luck
2007-10-08 18:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by peggy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it wasn't the right time to move in. She's clearly been thinking alot about a future with you. Maybe the moving in solidified something in her brain. I would move out if you can and give her space - for a time. She can't have forever to figure this out because then she will be walking on you. But it's normal to have lapses of faith. Give her some time to think, and you think too. But don't give her forever to think about it - limbo can go on forever. If you can get past this together, you can make it work. Or you'll know it's not going to. Just hang in there.
2007-10-08 18:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her space and she will come around how long has it taken you to realize she;s the one. put off the proposal it will only seem like a cheap attempt to get her back. take a 3 week break with no contact if possible so you both can reevauluate things. no cheating- let her know that you dont want to throw away the relationship but want to see her happy.
2007-10-08 18:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing is to date each other for 7 years another thing is to live with each toher. maybe u re impossible to live with. and that fact that u decided to move together after SEVEN, i repeat, seven years. it says smth. how come u have been waiting soo long? i am not a child and my new husband is very far from being a child - i m in my mid thirties, he is in his late forties, when we met we dated like amonth. then he moved in with me then he bought us a house. we re still happy together a´fter 3 years. we moved together beause we couldn't live without each other. why did u move together? cos it was inappropriate to stay apart longer? and anyway, i got divorsed with my previous husband after 12 years of marriage and 3 children - it never stopped me. if u don't have any common goals in life with someone there is no reason to waste life over it. doesn't matter how long u have been together -1 year, seven years or 30 years. my husband got divorsed after 20 years of marriage and 2 kids. so what
2007-10-08 18:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely you're giving him rigidity via wanting to get returned with him. i understand ur frustration, a 6mnths destroy is an prolonged time...and you're meant to help him by his unhappy time no longer be a project. yet he would not understand that. all you're able to do is be there for him whilst he needs you, and in turn he will understand that what supply help to have been to him. he purely lost somebody he loves, and now you want him to love you hoping you by no potential bypass away. this is not any longer basic for him, believe subject concerns and not desiring a love one to bypass away is a conflict he's dealing with. some relationships are no longer basic to hold onto the place grief is worried. provide him time, yet be brave adequate to stroll away if issues dont substitute.
2016-10-08 21:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very fickle.... also like she doesn't know what she wants.... maybe you should say fine move out and tell her she can have all the space she needs but don't expect you to wait around forever while she is trying to figure out what the hell she wants.
2007-10-08 18:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by DavidV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sh*t or get off the pot!
You've been dating for 7 years... and you still don't know if you are going to marry her?
You are in your thirties and she hears her biological clock ticking! You gotta make babies before you hit 40!
Take her to a nice restaurant, give her a ring, pop the question, and haul her off to the courthouse to get the marriage license, and preferably get the JP to marry you two.
Don't expect her to wait around much longer!
2007-10-08 18:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pull out the engagement ring. That seems to be missing.
2007-10-12 18:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is getting tired of waiting for you to ask her to marry her. That's why she says she needed time to think. It is her way of letting you go now. If you don't want to marry her, let her go. You are wasting her time.
Plus, you two are just 'shacker uppers' with no commitment with one another. Why are you waiting so long to marry her? Wasn't 2 years enough time to get to know her?? She is tired of waiting so she wants to move on with her life. Let her go. Otherwise, marry her now.
2007-10-08 18:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The advice you need is not from us on Yahoo. Talk to her. Listen to her. repeat.
Good luck. Love is easy, communication sucks tail end.
2007-10-08 18:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋