I'm in love with a married man who says he wants to divorce his wife but can't afford a lawyer or to even move out. He has children and I support him wanting to be with them and give them everything. But waiting for the perfect time??? It'll never happen. I think filing for divorce or moving out are some steps he could take, but he wants to wait til he can do it all.
2007-10-08 18:27:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok you really need someone to tell you the truth so I will be that person.
What makes you think you are the only person he has cheated on his wife with? Why are you so special? if you were special wouldn't you be his wife?
I only say these things because you should be with a guy who really gives you all the things you ask for. This guy is going to continue to lie to you as long as you continue to hope. He will come over to your house and take your dignity away and use you up till he has had enough and moves on to the next women. He will most certainly lie to you and tell you he is at work etc. etc. till you quit calling him and nagging him. You see your relationship is based on lies. It started with a lie and it will end on the same note.
Will you wait untill you become pregnant, have a miscarriage? Will it take something that dramatic for you to say you don't want to go through it anymore? People who have affairs "enjoy" the lie that is why they do it.
2007-10-08 19:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will probably never happen. Men always use those excuses because there are people that will believe them. The perfect time? To leave his family for someone else? There is not a perfect time for that. He is using the kids as an excuse. He wants his cake and at eat it too. I bet that he tells you he does not sleep with his wife also. Girl, do not believe this because it is not true. If he wanted out he would be out.
2007-10-08 20:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" He has children and I support him wanting to be with them and give them everything"
Perhaps you should rethink that statement.
What do you think kids want/need the most? Hint: stability. They need parents they can trust, learn from, and respect.
The sign he really wanted to be with you would be respect to wish you the very best & try to track you down years from now when he's divorced, adjusted, and has something to offer you other than a roll in the sack and empty promises.
Or, you could stick a tooth under your pillow and hope for a dollar.
2007-10-08 18:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right - it will never happen if he waits for all the lights to be green.
If you're looking for "progress", have him give you money out of every paycheck to put into a separate bank account for him to eventually pay for a lawyer. That's something he can do that doesn't include moving out or filing, but will eventually HELP him move out and file.
If he's willing to do that, then there's a chance that he's serious. If he's not willing to do something that means actual progress, then cut him loose and don't look back.
2007-10-08 18:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont get it he doesnt even have money to get a place or whatever why do you want this man with financial obligations 2 kids and an x wife move on it sounds like he is full of excuses or is trying to blow you off in a nice way
2007-10-08 18:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by nicole l 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just leave this situation all together and find someone who is SINGLE and AVAILABLE. If he wanted to leave, trust me, he would have been gone. He's not going to leave and you need to accept that fact and move on.
2007-10-08 19:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Fireanddesir 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is insulting you, his wife, and his marriage by screwing outside of his marriage. And no, he won't ever leave his wife... you, hon, are just the "jerk in reserve". And he won't ever be able to "afford" to leave them.... deep down, you already know that.
2007-10-08 18:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he was cheating when you met him what makes you think he won't do the same to you if he does leave his wife? do you really want to be with a cheater.
2007-10-08 19:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by funguytank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sleep with him before? if u slept with him, better u just forget him. Because he just want u to be his doll only.
2007-10-08 18:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by royxx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its whores like u who wreck good homes....arent u pretty enough to get single guys....how ugly are u?
2007-10-08 18:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋