We did have intercourse.. 7 times over the last 3 months.. I know this is low for newlyweds
He is initially aroused.. but cant keep it up... thats the main problem ...and now hes scared to try !!
I think he should use some medication
2007-10-08 17:20:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seriously, my fiance and I used to have that problem. Its all mental on his part. Tell him you want to have 2 hours of fooling around and foreplay, but you don't need or really care if you have sex. It takes the pressure off him, and after a couple of times doing that, he'll be able to keep it up. Then, it might take him awhile to ejaculate. Be patient. Make sure you talk during sex though. It will relax him.
2007-10-08 17:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be any number of things. Blood pressure medications, psychological problems related to anxiety. Im also wondering his age and if he has diabetes or other health problems.
Free him from his anxiety. This may sound a little too much for this, but it helps if you relax with him and have him masturbate for you. Most men can ejaculate thru masturbation. Help him to do it with oil or some type of lubricant. He may be used to the hand and not able to climax any other way. If you masturbate him, it helps this problem.
Another thing is to find out what kind of position he prefers. Maybe if you try it in a doggie style position or if you use a position which is his favorite, it will help
Dont blame him or blame yourself. I am sure this is something you will over come. If you cannot work this out with him, then he needs to see a Urologist for an examination.
2007-10-09 00:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's psycholgical. Do something that will get his confidence back. Try having non-penetrative sex. Knowing he's not expected to "go all the way" can take a load of his mind. do that for awhile until he's maintaining erections for longer periods of time, then do as you please. Most people think only women have fears, etc re: sex, but not true. The BRAIN is the most important organ during sex.
2007-10-09 00:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he take anti depressants or other meds that could affect him?
My boyfriend has the same problem and he takes herbs in place of viagra. Most of the time herbs seem to do the trick unless he is drinking then we have to use the blue pill.
2007-10-09 00:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by escpNV2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe there's something going on mentally?! He should talk to his doctor if it continues in the event that something is medically wrong. Also, this may become very frustrating for you if it continues. Good luck..
2007-10-09 00:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋