Im in love with another man. how should I tell my husband. This isnt a fling it is a man from my past. and i love him with all my heart. And you should know that i havent been happy for a while in my marrige.
2007-10-08 16:53:43 · 15 answers · asked by Rachel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should also add i have two kids
2007-10-08 17:00:27 · update #1
the kids are his and that is the main reason we got married.
2007-10-08 17:09:33 · update #2
the guy im in love with is not a relationship from the past.
2007-10-09 01:46:55 · update #3
Well, you have to go with your heart. Having kids makes it tough, but just do it. If you do it the right way, you won't lose your kids, unless you want to lose them. That was not intended to be mean, I don't know what your plans are.
Best of Luck and always go with the heart.......
2007-10-08 17:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by SweetLittleSister 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You love that man with all your heart, then how come you are married with someone else... if there was something that made you to take that step and marry the other person, think about that 'something'more carefully. If you still sure that your feeling to that person is so strong, that you will simply make your husband unhappy and especially if he is ready to give his life for you and love you very much, then you will brake him and crash his life and dreams.
You mentioned about two kids, but didn't say from whom are those kids... if they are from yuor husband - then you must take into account their feelings, as they will simply lose loving father - and that will be the great stress for the rest of their lives.
Be wise! Speak to your husband about the problems you have and try to solve them. Make the situation clear first of all for yourself! Be sure in your steps and thoughs, if you have even a bit of doubt then don't take any decision, but wait and time will show you everything. Study the situation and be strong!
Best of all to you!
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2007-10-08 17:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by (✿◡‿◡✿) 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should run far away from this other man, lest you commit adultery. Have you forgotten your wedding vows? For better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer until DEATH do us part. That is what you vowed or maybe you really didn't mean it when you vowed it?
How very selfish of you, what about your children? You are tearing apart their family.
You should stay with your husband and do what ever it takes to make your marriage better. Love is a choice. Do what is right.
Adultery is a very bad sin with dire consequences. You have free will to commit this sin, but you can not choose the consequences and you will pay them and unfortunately so will your children and your husband.
Shame on you.
2007-10-08 17:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to be in love with someone other than your husband/wife. I don't see why you would get married and have kids if you are in love with somebody else. Does this guy love you back? Best of luck
2007-10-08 17:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mandibulin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok well seeing as how i am the other man. my advice is now and will continue to be tell your husband the truth. I love you and have loved you for years. Our paths took us different ways... you to your husband and me to Iraq. Rekindling our love after all this time has made me happier than ive ever been, but i cant help but feel ashamed for asking you to betray your husband, SO. Be honest with him and let him down easy. you know ill always love you and the kids.
2007-10-08 17:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Pj 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The why didn't you marry this other guy? And why did you marry your husband? Your betraying pretty much everything in your life right now. Why aren't yo uhappy? Sort things out one way or the other with your husband first, then see about all that other mess.
2007-10-08 17:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell the truth he deserves to move on and find some one that will love him and make him happy. P.s what makes you think that a relationship that didn't work in the past will work now
2007-10-08 18:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by james b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that you haven't been happy for a while talk to and if he loves you then he would want you to be happy. Keeps things calm and adult like that will help just talk calming and tell him how you feel get everything out on the table now.
2007-10-08 16:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer R 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The poor guy deserves to know, so be honest and tell him as soon as possible. Also be kind as you break up. No need to hurt him more than he's going to be.
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Edit:
Now that we know from your details that you have kids with your husband, then you must put aside your love for this other man and keep your family intact. Unless you love the other man more than your own children.
2007-10-08 16:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by TJTB 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Two words, Love and Respect.
You are Married, the past does not exsist. Stay true to your Marriage Vows. You took them before God Himself, Your Husband. Ask God for His help on this matter.
God Bless.
2007-10-08 17:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋