I have an ex that broke my heart worse than anyone I've ever been in love with. . .then he left me for scum and made it seem like he never loved me at all. However, recently he has been prank calling me and texting me. I'm just wondering why he would do this if he treated me the way he did (cheating, lying, psychological abuse, etc.) I've started to heal and move on, but I'm lost and just don't understand why he would make such an effort to prank call from random phones and send random text messages to me? Someone please help me understand what is going on!
2007-10-08 16:25:29 · 27 answers · asked by Psalms 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The poor fellow thought the grass was greener in the other pasture but finally discovered that you were the true jewel, hence his desperate albeit stupid attempts to reconnect with you .Now Listen to me sugar:This is your time to show him that you are not a door rug nor floor mat that he can trample on,abandon and revisit whenever he wishes!!!!
Show the poor excuse of a human being that you are "worth your weight in GOLD" any time, AND you don't care for his sorry ***.Demonstrate some dignity Lady! or forever be at his beck and call.
Gotta go honey.You go make me proud.You hear me!!Do it.
2007-10-08 17:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Source 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very immature and overall, you are very lucky he has moved on. He wants his cake and eat it to. He doesn't want you but he wants you to want him and it bothers him that you are moving on. Your life would be miserable with someone who is this self-centered.
Change your phone number so he can't reach you and if he does contact you in any way, tell him to leave you alone or you will make a police report that he is harrassing you. Be sure and document all calls, text messages and any other contacts so you can show the police how he is bothering you all the time (do not share what you are doing with him as far as documentation). Then go get a restraining order.
If you see him anywhere, walk the other direction or leave the area completely if you can. Hopefully in time he will move on and who knows, maybe he will eventually grow up. Learn to love and respect yourself so you can find someone who will do the same and treat you like the princess you are. Doesn't sound like this loser did and you deserve better in this life.
God bless you
2007-10-08 23:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My gut tells me that this guy is having problems with his current situation, is looking for a way out, and thought of you as a possibility. He's doing the texting thing and prank calling thing to get you thinking about him again, and soon he will pounce and try to get you back. You're on your way to healing over this guy. Don't let him get back into your head, which is exactly what he's trying to do. You have to be strong, or you will end up having to go through the pain you already experienced all over again. Good luck :-).
2007-10-09 00:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just have a mean and hateful side to them and have no morals or conscience when it comes to hurting people. When someone does something like this they have issues and its about them and not you!! What he is doing is cruel and trust me what ever you felt about him he did not feel about you. Did you ever think that his new scum girlfriend maybe getting on his telephone without him knowing it and be the one doing this to you? It could be that she is jealous of you because your ex has a past with you and she is doing this to make sure you don't want him back in your life. If it continues I would report this harrasement and have it stopped.......because if your ex is contacted about the calls and he is not the one doing it and he doesn't know about it ...he might see the scum girlfriend for who she really is.
2007-10-09 00:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to get attention to make himself feel better about himself. He probably left you for the scum because he thought he was better than her, changed his mind and now wants you back in his life and this is his way of trying to do that. Just tell yourself that you are better off without this guy in your life and if it gets too bad tell him if you doesn't leave you along you are going to file a police report and have him arrested. get a restraining order against him if need by, but be thankful that he left
2007-10-09 00:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For some odd reason you've come up in his memory again. He certainly doesn't seem like a very desirable person to begin with & also did a number on you in the past. He is a controlling person, no doubt about it, but DO NOT allow him to further control you again in any way. It wuld. be well worth your while to change your phone no. to get rid of him as soon as you can. There's always a way to get rid of someone when we really want to. Please get your number changed & break his new control that he's attempting to do to you. You do not have to accept unacceptable behavior. IF it continues, you could always report him for harrassment! Best to you.
2007-10-08 23:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sue C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey may be one of those people that have no idea how to apologize. Him contacting you (in any form) could be his way of trying to say he's sorry for what he did to you. He may regret the decisions he made and feel bad and just not know how to say he was in the wrong. If you are really trying to get past him you should tell him to leave you alone, ask him to please not contact you anymore. If you think that you still like him and could possible have a relationship then let him know that. He might very well want the same thing... to get back together with you.
2007-10-08 23:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by HappyGyrl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't waste your time trying to figure him out,its imposable. He doesn't sound like a good person. Focus on getting on with your life ,and make every effort to forget this lowlife. The less you think about him the better off you will be.If he harasses you in any way,get advice from a lawyer .Good luck.
2007-10-08 23:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes trying to see if he still has any control over you. He was with you for however long he would know your voice patterns of pain love blah blah so hes just testing the waters. Its more a ego boost for him to see if he still has u hanging out for him and a possible back up should his new girl get sick of his antics he has u to go back to.
2007-10-09 03:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by ksire06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason why he's continuing to do this crap is that abusers can't stop their own abusive cycle---. A leopard can't change his spots and he's not going to change his.
I admire you for taking that trash out to the curb for the final pick up!! I can tell that you are going to be one successful woman! You go girl!
2007-10-08 23:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋