Does anyone know or have remarried their ex spouse? I am beginning to think there is a possibiility that my ex-wife and I have a chance to get back together.
I was married for 23 years and then it was gone. I htink we both regret the divorce and now she has a medical condition and will need some help.
I am looking for serious replies.
2007-10-08 15:57:34 · 9 answers · asked by will_955 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends, first why did you divorce? Is it just because you weren't ready for a permanent relationship, or was it because you both thought that you were in love, or just did the both of you get board with one another? If you are reconsidering marriage because of guilt and sickness, that's definitely a no,no, because it didn't work before and it doesn't mean just because she's sick that its going to work again. There's always going to be that resentment of the divorce regardless of how much you both think that you need each other during a crisis. Its great that you can be Friends and its also great that you can be there for her in her time of need, but its not going to change the past. If you have a wonderful friendship now its best to keep it that way. I'm sure deep down that there is some love still left but is it enough to get through the past. Work on the future and your friendship and be there for one another. No one down deep can ever put the past behind themselves, because there is always going to be that doubt and wonder. Stay close friends and be there if you need each other. Ive been through the same situation there will always be something between you but it wont be enough to survive the rough road ahead of the both of you. Good luck with your decision. I hope that things work out !!!!
2007-10-08 16:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends entirely on the two people involved.
Sometimes, its two people that are just stuck in a pattern and not making any core changes. "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results."
Things didn't work out the first time for a reason - probably several reasons. People rarely change but it is possible, when they really want to and make a devoted effort to change. If you and your ex have made honest efforts and changes in your lives that will help correct the previous problems, then you guys have a fighting chance.
In the end, only the two of you can decide if there is enough love, changes and committment to try again.
Good luck and I hope you find happiness :)
2007-10-08 23:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by rose1077 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a good basis for the marriage to work after 23 years of marriage before that fell apart, especially if you both really regret the divorce, but you should ask yourself if you really love her or are just feeling sorry for her because of the medical condition, and are you willing and able to help her. If you ask yourself these things and if the answers are right, the remarriage will be as well.
2007-10-08 23:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know several people who have remarried their ex's. It all depends if you have fixed the things that caused the grief and your separating. Do you have good communication?
If you were married for 23 years, you know each other well enough. You sound like you have a good heart .
I think you have a good chance - dont jump in - think a little and talk plenty first.
Good luck - and be happy
2007-10-08 23:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by JazzE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you help her with her condition without getting re-married, be with her, help her through recovery, hold her hand, be her best friend and lover, then make that decision?
You may not like what you might be getting into.... It's all pretty much unknown territory and you didn't make the first round, for a reason. You might think it is unrelated, but all marital issues are related in one way or another. You have your doubts, otherwise you wouldn't be asking.
Think about it and Good Luck with your decision.
2007-10-08 23:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by De-Activated Bad Profile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you both marry for the right reasons, not only because she has a medical condition.
2007-10-08 23:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband and I are boyfriend and girlfriend. It works for us, we get along so much better now.
Make sure you are getting back together for the right reasons. Dont do it just because she is ill and needs you.
Be together because you want to be together, not because you need each other, Get together because you are happier together than apart.
2007-10-08 23:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an ex is an ex for a reason
2007-10-08 23:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by nerakian 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no,remarriage ex does work
2007-10-08 23:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by r1114@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋