She initiated it, and he briefly rubbed her arm as it finished.
very quick hug
He says the rub was nothing, I know he is completely trustworthy, but am still really bothered and insecure. HELP
2007-10-08 15:56:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like it was an innocent hug. I have been hugged the same way and its usually like a finally way of saying goodbye or to cover how awkward he was feeling about the hug. The fact that everyone was drunk could have had something to do with it. People get more touchy after they have been drinking heavily. I don't think you have to worry about the rubbing of the arm. I'm sorry but if you think he is so trustworthy why are you still bothered by it and insecure in your relationship. Haven't you ever been hugged that way by a guy? Maybe a hug that lasted too long. Did your husband question you about it? Think about how he is feeling after you questioned him. Talk it out with your husband and after you two discuss it, let it go. Hope this was some help to you.
2007-10-08 15:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jennpher :) 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Husbands get their ego stroked when an attractive drunk woman pays physical attention to them. I wouldn't be too worried about it, unless this is a "culminating incident" or "the straw the broke the camel's back" or something like that.
2007-10-08 16:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me, too. Sometimes the most innocent things can get under my skin. If you're anything like me you've come up with 100 different things that he was thinking when he did this. STOP! He honestly wasn't thinking anything. Trust me on this. If you keep thinking about it you'll start to remember the whole situation differently.
Go glam yourself up and surprise him with dinner reservations. You could use a boost right now. Good luck!
2007-10-08 16:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.Harbi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Feeling jealous sucks. It really does sound completely innocent, but it would probably bother me, too. First, I would suggest you not bring it up again. Do something that makes him only pay attention to you, wear something sexy, do something you usually don't do in bed, whatever. It might make you feel better to have him totally focused on you for a while.
2007-10-08 16:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probably too drunk to know what she was doing. Either that or she was just a hoe. Some random b**** touched my boyfriends butt once at a party (needless to say she was drunk) and I got pissed. Don't worry much about it though, your husband will forget about it, maybe not even remember.
2007-10-08 16:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Ro-Z 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that was all it was and he hasnt any connections to her. Get over it and stop being insecure and jealous.
Put it down to the drink and the atmosphere of the wedding.
You have nothing to worry about.
2007-10-08 16:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by JazzE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actions by drunken guests at weddings don't count. Your husband did the right thing by not rejecting her (thereby causing a scene), but also not encouraging her (like giving her tongue). You should be proud she was attracted to him. You went home with him.
2007-10-08 16:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the woman who gave your husband a hug might thought that she knew your husband...
Trust your husband, if he says, it meant nothing, it really meant nothing to him
2007-10-08 16:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by 2108 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like a movement done maybe out of the awkwardness of the situation. Not really cause he was in to her.
2007-10-08 16:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by SadieB 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are very insecure.
Unless you have a "real" reason to be suspicious of your husband do yourself, your husband & your marriage a favor and forget it.
2007-10-08 16:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋