Short-term speaking...
2007-10-08 15:43:34 · 31 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
be a good listener and let the healing take its course!!
2007-10-08 15:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by 100% ♥Creole♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not much can soothe the heartache of a friend's betrayal in the short term.....or long term in some other cases, for that matter.
There's no solid answer to this question, for an infinite array of circumstances, each different as we are as people, befall any given situation between the betrayed and betrayer.
One thing that IS solid fact: Atonement is NEVER easily earned, takes time and immense effort from the guilty---who has to accept the fact their efforts may not regain that bond of trust.
2007-10-08 15:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether it is a recent friend or one you have had a long time, whether you want to continue the friendship or not, what exactly they had done to hurt you etc. If it is a good friend then I agree with Bex that he/she should be given a second chance if he/she apologises and really means it. The trust would then have to be built up again by her actions over a period of time. Nothing else could make up for the hurt and betrayal.
2007-10-08 21:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
An apology is a good start. A SINCERE apology. I had a friend of mine apologize to me the other day and her apology was basically telling me in her tone of voice that she wasn't sorry for what she had said, but rather sorry I took it the wrong way. She didn't actually care that she had hurt my feelings. She was more defensive with her apology than anything. Being truly sorry will show.
2007-10-08 15:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, I am not easily hurt because I don't take a lot of things personally anymore. Yet, in March, I did have a massive betrayal. Someone I cared for & tried to help & trusted betrayed on a level I never had to deal with before. She lived in my home & stole over $150,000.00 in cash & items very precious to me that my Mentor had given me before she passed. The money meant nothing, the items she knew where precious to me. I have forgiven her, but the relationship is over. I wish her well, but want her to do well & get help far from me. I can forgive her, & have, but I can't trust her, she is very sick & needs much more than I could ever give her. I learned so much in this encounter, that it's just stuff, & sometimes the best help you can give another is to just sit on your sofa & pray for them. You can not save a drowning person if they drag you down with them, but you can still care for them. Thanks again for a excellent question. (((HUG)))
2007-10-09 03:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A nice longish hand-written letter, explaining the situation might go a long way. I would not appreciate another Christmas card with the stupid xeroxed "family newsletter" inside this year. E-mail and messages left on the phone's answering service are not going to cut it with me either. Even better, if she would call me and stop by to visit us for a weekend.
2007-10-08 16:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know much it would matter to me...it depends on what IS acceptable to U. people differ in their needs for friendships. I will consider WHAt S/he did... sometimes it is better to move on.. find another friend...i do not want to be friends with someone i do not trust, and causing me to hurt for whaever reason is going to make me distrust this person..so, i think there is no place for repair ..unless u r looking to be hurt again...and it is bound to happen.. friendships are strange things..very fragile and very important.. u think about that u do not really need to ask anyone what should be acceptable... u need to think...what IS acceptable to u.
2007-10-08 15:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by colonita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize.
2007-10-08 15:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all apologizing, but only if they mean it. then, the two can talk about it and see if they can resolve the issue in a mannerly way. all one can hope for is to continue being friends and a forgiveness on some level.
2007-10-08 15:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could apologize for being insensitive, for one. That goes a long way as it shows they too value the friendship..instead of bringing it to that person's attention and they make it worse by being more insulting
2007-10-08 15:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Kiss my Shaz 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
apologise for what was done/said. and if they trash talked me to anybody else because they were mad at me, go to those they talked about me to, and make it right. (that's if what they said was really horrible and damaging to my reputation, if it wasn't then no need to go to them and correct it).
After that, forget it..... as it's water under the bridge. No worries. People argue. Friends fight. Everyone has a bad day.
♥
2007-10-08 15:51:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋