Be open minded on this one. How can you expect this not to spill over in the adult world?

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Looking at this of natural abilities not man-hating or men being abusive or wanting to be domineering.

Men usually have an automatic responce from children when it comes to disipline. Children will more often listen to men about their behaviour and attitude. Usually through consistancy of the men.

Women have a difficult time to emulate men in this area of parenting.

Do you think that this differnece in men and women is a problem in the adult world causing arguments and angst.

Is this under diagnosed or not given the attention it needs in the differnences of the genders.

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I did not say anything in the slightest about hitting children. That may be your desire, not mine.

Answer 1

Hmmm...I don't know about that statement. When I was growing up, my Father wasn't the disciplinarian, it was my Mother. My Father was the easy going parent, while my Mother was the one we feared the most. I was raised with an "iron fist" by my Mother and my Father was the one that nurtured us.

So in fairness to your statement. It would be presumed to be that, Men would be the disciplinarians in any household, but circumstance is as it is. You either have the disciplinarian in you or you don't. If you are the one always giving in to your spouse, bf or gf, then, you're actions will emulate how you are as subservient, obedient and/or submissive in your disciplinary tactics.

If you can't discipline yourself, then, you can't discipline your kids. Male or Female. Father or Mother. That's just the bottom line.

Answer 2

Actually, my household is similar to Juniper's. I am home right now with the kiddies and I am the disciplinarian. I am not afraid of putting the "smack down" as someone had mentioned above. I will admit though that there are times when I am beat both emotionally and physically (being a stay at home mom is not easy, especially to three kids 7, 6, & 4), and I have to ask their father to take over a bit. And he gets the job done. I think its the authority in the masculine voice that scares them. We are all human and sometimes we get tired and I have been fortunate enough to have a hubby that sees the stress in my face and steps in. So I think its a good balance. And like many said before me, consistency is key.

Answer 3

I don't agree with your total concept of the role of the woman and the man in parenting.

I don't think there is any reason to ever hit a child.

I feel if a man and woman have a good, solid marriage they have good, solid sharing ways of raising children.

You are basically saying that men through consistency are better parents than women. I don't see where children listen to men more because of a man's behavior and attitude. Unless because men have a deeper, rougher voice and body size over a child's size. Don't you feel that borders on fright from the child's view?

I don't think this is a problem that causes arguments and angst between parents. If it does, it is because the man wants to be the supreme figure in the family,when the woman can take charge and do as well or better. If both parents are equal and loving, they are not going to have a problem raising children.

Answer 4

I think your theory may be colored by your own life experiences. I have found in my social group, with a few exceptions, that the children mind the mother more as the father either lives elsewhere or is working during the hours when the children would normally interact with him.
I don't feel that it is a single item (i.e.: your gender theory) that causes a child to listen better to anyone, but a combination: love, mutual respect, consistency, and communication.

Answer 5

First, I had no desire to "emulate men" when it came to discipline because their father was actually just a sperm donor. Secondly, I raised my son alone since he was 3 and he's doing just fine thank you (on the verge of yet another promotion, owns 4 bedroom home w/pool, expecting second child with wife of 10 years who he began dating 19 years ago.) My older son stayed with the sperm donor and is, unfortunately, very dysfunctional when it comes to relationships and self-worth.

I think all the anti-feminists on this site are trying like madmen to point the finger of blame at women for just about everything under the sun and to be quite frank - it's really getting tiring - it's unproductive - it's redundant, unchallenging, and last but not least, makes me feel like I'm dealing with teenagers who haven't even been around the block yet let alone raised another human being.

So, why don't you stop trying to use all the big words you find in a dictionary and start thinking instead.

Answer 6

I am the consistent disciplinarian of my child. My husband is the softy. I personally would be happy to let him take over my role, but he doesn't want it. In my opinion, every child needs a discipline and consistency. So, someone in his / her family needs to provide it. I would not over-analyze this, though. Men and women are only human, which means different: some have natural leadership abilities and others are followers. That has absolutely nothing to do with gender.

Answer 7

Its easier for men to be the bad-cop as they are usually bigger, deeper voice and historically more of a stranger due to work (then the mother). This meant that the family unit had an overall capability which is lost with a single parent or two working parents. Childcare doesnt help as they have to be a reliable middle ground tending towards good-cop, and working parents both want to take advantage of the little time they have so they dont want to be bad-cop either.... all this equals a large percentage of <38's as selfish egocentric adult-babies.

So I dont think your right, I think this gender difference had the capability of being more effective but like anything it needs to be used correctly/intelligently otherwise it will be less useful or completely counter-productive if abused.

Answer 8

because of the fact the beginning up of recorded history, there has by no potential been peace interior the worldwide, so what makes you think of it may ensue now? i don't care what form of exchange is going on in this massive landfill website, I disassociated myself from society years in the past. Wasn't Gandhi assassinated?

Answer 9

I actually disagree with this, it's my experience that the children I've seen appear to give the mother or female caregiver the more authority over them. I've experienced this not only with my mother and the women in my family, but with friends as well as strangers. I've found that children also tend to listen more and are better disciplined amongst female childcare workers as well, like teachers and daycare workers. My cousin used to work at a couple of day cares. One day car had an equal amount of men to women and it appeared to me that the women had more control. The other day care had less men than women, and most of the women had better control over the children.

I think kids tend to shy away from men and not listen to them because of the things you stated. And I do think women are more consistent than men are.

Answer 10

I fear for my son . His mom got off on contradicting me in front of him . If i said red she would say green.

Now my son has discipline problems .His mom now finally backs me up(when he turned 10 he is almost 12) but the damage has already been done .His mind has congealed and set just like glue or clay . He is now of the firm belief that he does not have to respect authority .