why are my parents freaking out on me? im FOURTEEN!?

Question

i went to the mall today and bought eye-shadow and now my mom and dad are FREAKING OUT! like im fourteen yrs old and all of my freinds wear makeup. it's only eyeshadow, why do they have to over react like this?

Answer 1

I don't know. That doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. True story: When I was 12 (almost 13), my friend and I did each other's makeup and her dad (who was very old) took us and dropped us off at the mall. We were walking around and then....I spotted my mom. Come to find out, she had come to the mall on her lunch break from work. She walked right past me without saying a word. And did I mention that we had LOADED the makeup on? That night, I came home from my friend's house, and my mom was waiting on me. Instead of getting in so much trouble like I had thought, my mom had bought me some cover girl makeup. She said "Since you want to wear makeup, I'm going to show you how to put it on right." She showed me how to wear makeup so that it looked natural and that I didn't look like a slut. I'm now 25, and I still think that what my mom did was awesome!

Talk to your parents (in particular, your mom). Tell her that you would like to wear a little bit of makeup, as it helps you to feel better about yourself, and helps enhance your features. Ask if it would be okay to wear a little bit of makeup (i.e. a natural eyeshadow, a little mascara, and lip gloss.) At 14, I don't think that is too young to wear a little bit of makeup. However, if they still don't budge, I wouldn't go against their rules, but hopefully, they will be understanding and will work with you a little bit! Good luck!

Answer 2

Because parents have a weird way of connecting things together. Eye shadow is just the first step in you becoming an adult and that scares them probably. Did you ask if you could buy it? If they allow you to wear make up just yet? Have a sit down with your mother and tell her I know I bought it, but it's not that bad, and it doesn't mean I'm going to do anything bad, and then tell her next time she can be with you when you buy it. Parents like when you involve them in what is going on in your life.

Answer 3

it's really hard for a parent to see and accept that their child is growing up. To them it's not over reacting. What you need to do is sit down with them CALMLY and talk to them about why you feel that you are old enough to wear the makeup. Your really not going to get anywhere with them if you get upset and yell. Try to see it from their side too, and if you can do this, they might begin to see that your not a baby anymore and begin to respect the more mature you. It takes you being mature though to get that respect though. If they still say no, them respect their decision. That is a form of maturity too, and that will show them that your growing up as well. I have been both a 14 year old girl and now a mother....

Answer 4

Your parents aren't anywhere close to accepting the fact you are becoming a young woman. They probably think they are protecting you from the world of boys, men, and sex. The truth is, though, they don't want you to start growing up, and this is probably because they fear having to start preparing you for womanhood and the responsibilities which come with it. They need to step up, put their emotions to the side, and accept their responsibility for teaching you how to become a strong, moral, and beautiful young woman. Finally, they will need to learn how to slowly let you go as you grow. You may have to take the first step here, but once your parents realize you are growing up, they will most likely calm down. Above all, have patience. This is my hope for you, as well as your parents.

Answer 5

Because kids are growing up to fast today. I think eye shadow is fine but when girls start lining their eyes with heavy black eyeliner and mascara it is very trashy looking especially at 14(or younger) They are probably expecting the worst because of how so many teenagers dress and act now a days.

Answer 6

When it comes to their children, parents don't always see what is in front of them. They may see meaning beyond the obvious (one thing leads to the next).

Here----let me give you an example:
Eye shadow > boys > smoking > drinking > drugs > teen sex > unplanned pregnancy...

You may see eye shadow while they may be seeing dirty diapers piling up in the laundry room.

You can slow down their visions by asking your mom to "help you" learn to put on your makeup correctly. Then it becomes just another Mommy-and-Me event.

Good luck!

Answer 7

they are having a hard time seeing their little girl growing up. And if you are just wearing makeup because your friends are then they might feel like you are giving into peer pressure. i am almost 15 and dont wear make up except for church. so just give them time and explain to them that you are not little anymore and that you wont wear too much

Answer 8

They're just afraid for you. Talk it over with them. You should be able to wear eyeshadow. It's not as if you had sex with a twenty year old.

Answer 9

I don't know. It seems kind of weird because my parents are always trying to get me to wear makeup. And my friends who want to wear it aren't allowed to.

They just don't want you getting hurt. They see eyeshadow as a symbol of you growing up, and also a symbol that you're starting to want to be recognized as pretty, and that can sometimes lead you into a world of sex.

Answer 10

cause u are 14. So your friends smoke pot that means you do also. Right. Well I hope not. You are not experienced enough in the world to make decisions for your self yet Its your parents job to "freak out" when appropriate and in an appropriate manor. Its for your own good.