i think im gay....?

Question

ok, i'm 17 and i think i'm gay. recently i have been having more and more feelings for this guy i hardly know and when i talk to him its only for a brief time because i'm extremely shy and i don't really know what to talk about...but the funny think is i kinda like this girl but i don't think its the same way i like this guy and....does this mean i'm gay, or am i Bi....i don't know i'm confused....help me please?!?!

Answer 1

If you're not sure, you're not ready. Keep on talking to him, work on getting over being shy when it's one on one. Talk about anything you have in common. School stuff or current events. And smile, learn to be a good listener. Guys like that, so do girls. People in general like a good listener. In the meantime, don't dwell on your sexuality. Enjoy life, your time is rapidly approaching but you're not quite there yet. Actually in my opinion you're right on schedule to figuring yourself out. And don't have a BF or GF just to have one. It never works. And winds up costing too much both financially and emotionally. Trust me, your time will come when you know and I bet by next summer if you work on your people skills a little bit and come out of your shell, you'll be getting asked out.

Answer 2

OK, let's think about this for a minute -

1). It's okay to be confused. Remember that you are 17, and there is alot of life to live. You do not have to decide this right here and now. Most people out there are confused to, but most people do not allow themselves the time to think and to examine their feelings much less consider the possibilities.

2). Hold onto the ones that you love. I once had a best friend that I though that I was in love with. I could not stop thinking aobut what he was up to, what he would think about this and that, and after a while, I understood that I loved him, but was not inlove with him. That means, that I loved him as a friend and not as a lover. It's okay - but just give yourself some time to think about how you really feel, and no matter what - your thoughts are just that - natural thoughts.

3). If you are Bi, would you be ok with that? I mean, are you willing to live and love openly? There is alot to it, but remember, if you are, you owe it to yourself to be honest. Too many people live lies - and hurt themsevles in the process.

Either way - trust your instincts and take your time. Get to know them both better (and remember - it's ok). You are young, and you are mature enough to consider that which most people probably have never contemplated.

Answer 3

You are still young but 17 is close enough to adulthood to be able to answer this question for yourself. In your question you mention feelings and being shy. You know in your heart and mind what it really boils down to. Between this guy and this girl which one would you rather get naked with and get really get after it? You may say both. If so you could be bi, but until you've had more experiences with both sexes will you be able to say whether or not you prefer one over the other. Be careful.
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Answer 4

Do NOT rush anything! Just wait and see if you're bi or gay! You will find out soon and who really cares, anyway? If you like somebody, you like them. It kinda sounds like you are either gay or straight though...If you like this guy are you sure you don't just like him like a brother? Or what about this girl? Are you sure you aren't just really close to her? I have a lot of girls I feel really close to, but I'm not lesbian...I just feel really close to them like they're my sisters! Good luck, and don't worry about it too much!! You'll find someone you love soon no matter what gender!

Answer 5

Honestly, don't stress about it dude. I am wicked shy around guys I like also and never know what to say. Just be yourself and talk about stuff you like and get his opinion on the Yankees, Fallout Boy or something you notice about him. Think of him as a friend you already know; what do you talk about with them?

Answer 6

I found that I had a lot of "crushes" on girls... but what it really was was intense infatuation... I really wanted to be around them a lot and be the "one" good guy in their lives... and "rescue them"... and play the role of the "knight in shining armor" for them that I'd grown up seeing in film...

...but I never felt like I wanted to grab them and throw them on a bed and rip off all their clothes... that was how I felt about guys... AND I wanted to be the "one" in their life too!...

... so looking back... it was "best friend infatuation" feelings in the long run... for the girls...

... and sex, love and marriage ( one day ) for the guys...:P

Answer 7

If you look at which one arouses you sexually -- you can tell your preference. If you are aroused by the guy but not the girl, you are gay -- even if you want to be her friend. If it reverses, you are straight -- and if both of them arouse you (cause you to get ha*d) then you are bisexual.

If you need/want to talk, I listen well, email me.

Kind thoughts,

Reyn
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Answer 8

i would say if u have feelings for both male and female, i would say ur more bi, i love the guy i'm with, but i would be with a girl as well, i've had feelings for both, and i'm bisexual, not question about it.

Answer 9

Hey, i am with you all about the whole thing as well. I think that you are bi, which i think that i am.

Answer 10

You need to grow up.Start with telling you parents you think your gay.See if this helps you get on the right track.Best of luck.