i like my best friend-clarissa alot. i day dream about her all the time and she hangs out with another one of my friends and the two of them always hang on each other and lay on each other and it is starting to get me jealous. should i tell my friend how i feel or should i just keep it to myself?.....fyi im bi and i haven't told anyone and my question is should i tell myfriend im bi and then tell her my feelings?
2007-10-08 14:22:48 · 22 answers · asked by MJ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'd say tell her that you're bi and see how she responds to it... but give her a little time for it to sink in before laying it on even more thick. Too much big news can end up looking like bad news, even if it's not... just pace yourself on telling the big stuff, and things should work out great!
2007-10-08 14:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by caitrin2009 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if i were u...i would ask her casually, "wut u think about gays or bi's?" or something like that. learn about what she thinks about stuff like that...so u can at least get an idea of what kind of girl ur dealing with. if she says gays are disgusting...i prefer u not to tell her....but later on u can...if she says gays and bi's are ok...just give it some time and slowly open up to her cuz if u just say " i like u and i am bi" chances are u might freak her out....eventually when u become rlly close...u guys will form a bond that cannot be breakable (i hope) then u can tell her " u know...i had some feelings for u" or something like that....she might take it as a joke....or she will listen to u....or if she liked u...u guys can go out (yay!)
but like they say....expect the unexpected...
honestly im in a similar situation...ive like this girl for 2 years....we're not best friends but good friends... im starting to be more opened and open-minded to her to gain her trust and for her to gain my trust...yea...itz a awkward situation
but i wish u luck!!!
i hope u wish me luck too!
2007-10-08 21:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by lava_hotty1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her you're bi...It may make you feel a LOT better...About you telling her you like her? I'm not sure...1) is she bi or lesbian? 2)Is this other girl her girlfriend, or are they just friends? If she is bi or lesbian, then yeah, tell her you like her! Otherwise, it may kind of freak her out. It's hard to tell a lot of times. It depends on her personality...Also, if this girl is her girlfriend I would let them be happy together. If you like this girl like you said, then you'll want her to be happy. I know, it can be hard. Try to find some one else though...Maybe join a gay/lesbian club. A lot of people meet their partners at those kinds of places. Only do this in person, though!!! Don't join an online club! Best luck to you!
2007-10-08 21:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Chibi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should start talking about the subject of bisexuals and see how she feels about it. Dont tell her right off that you are bi. Listen to how she responds to the subject. If she is ok with bisexuals, just tell her you think you might be bi. If she is not ok, it might make her feel uncomfortable to know you are.
2007-10-08 21:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by angie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask about your other friend that's always over her and ask how she feels about her. even if she likes her, tell your friend that you're bi and your feeling for her. she will understand if she is a true friend.
2007-10-08 21:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, tell your friends ur BI. Expressing your feelings is always good. Go for it
2007-10-08 21:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you aren't bi I wouldn't say anything. You would be really better off just sticking to guys. This kind of fooling around with the same sex can lead to alot of problems.
2007-10-08 21:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
You should keep you mouth shut.Get real.You have a lot of growing up to do.
2007-10-08 21:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by HyperGforce 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends if she's bi. I'm a Christian and straight so I really shouldn't have answered
2007-10-08 21:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can do it, but keep in mind you might lose her friendship in the process.
2007-10-09 11:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by luvbev2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋