when i was younger, i was a chubby ugly quiet kid...i was made fun of, bullied, and no matter what i did to get a girl to like me, it was all in vain.
i was this way till sometime in highschool when i started lifting wieghts and working out hard core. the summer going into college i lost all the fat and suddenly it was like i was a totally different person.
suddenly i was totally noticed for all the right reasons, like some miraculous 'swan' show. i got the girls, i drew in the crowds. i was like mr.cool. now i am 32, and still do everything possible to keep a perfect physic and still be desirable to the ladies...but i have just started to really notice that i am like crazy. if i gain just a pound or so of fat, i work out like nuts. if my fiance doesnt desire me, i immediatly start to look in other directions for attention. so am i crazy, do i have some sort of issue from my past of being undesirable that is causiing me this mental anguish? is professional help in my future?
2007-10-08 13:44:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Don't stop taking care of yourself when it come to your health. Just be who you are meant to be, and the rest will fall into place. I had the same low self-esteem when i was growing up and one day it hit me like a ton of bricks. (I am who i am, and i like being who i am.) In other words, don't worry how other people see you. As long as you are comfortable with yourself, that's all that matters. Chin-up, have faith in yourself.
2007-10-08 14:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Leslie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's insecurity, you feel that because of the working out and weight loss, that is the only reason people like you. It's as if you're not really that person that they see, on the inside, so you battle to keep up the facade. It seems that you have worked way past mental anguish, you just have the same dose of insecurities that everyone else does. So you like to keep yourself fit, there is nothing wrong with that. But, even good looking people have to share the spotlight with others. So, get over yourself, pal, you're not G-d's gift to the world.
2007-10-08 21:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i know how u feel. the thing is u are looking for all the attention that u missed when u were younger and now as soon as a chance to be noticed comes u suck it all up. honestly i dont think what u r doin is wrong cause i do the same thing now and again. and as far as ur fiance goes she obviously finds u desireable or she wouldnt be with you. sometimes womans attention is focus else where and we dont realize it. and as far a a prof. in ur future that is totally up to u and no one else.
2007-10-08 20:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by April P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Professional help is definately in your future. To me it sounds like you want everyones attention and you think that the only way that you will get it is if you are perfect in your mind. True relationships are built on love and understanding, not muscles and looks.
2007-10-08 20:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by pitbull1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're still being affected by your childhood experiences, despite your successes. You might benefit from counseling, since a good counselor can help you work on your self-esteem.
2007-10-08 20:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by tangerine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no.. ur fine, everyone has their own problemss,,, just get over urself already... u don't need professional help... ur fine
2007-10-08 20:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Stuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋