always trying to to turn things in their favor?? How do you deal with them??
2007-10-08 12:48:56 · 31 answers · asked by Ginny 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It's a family member so I can't just get rid of them!!
2007-10-08 12:53:42 · update #1
My daughter-in-law has made it so I can't see my granddaughters. That is how manipulative she is. I haven't been able to see them on a regular basis since 2002. They live less than 40 miles from here. She hates her own mother and now hates me, too. She had me fill in as her mother at my son's and her wedding in 1994 as she hates her mother. Now she has also turned against me. I should have seen it coming. She is a manipulative wench.
2007-10-08 17:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. My grandson's gf is more manipulative than anyone I have met in 70 years. It's all about her and you'd better believe it will be in her favor. I've tried confronting her on her nonsense and she turns it around and I'm the bad guy. Mostly I avoid her with a passion. I try never to be around her when it might be just the two of us. Either that,or I get up and go to the bathroom. I go to the bathroom a lot when she's around.
2007-10-08 19:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by techtwosue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the best way to deal with it is to cut it loose and keep pushing forward but since it is a family member, you can try to understand where they are coming from and maybe see what issues they have had to deal with or that they didn't deal with, that is why they are that way, but all in al try to put some distance between the two of you if you can and don't get sucked in
2007-10-09 03:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, good question. Do you like the person enough to still be friends? If it's a relative you're kind of stuck but could try not to spend much time with him or her. Frankly, I'm too wimpy and ditch someone like that if after trying a bit didn't work. I wish you luck, it's a rough situation. If you try to talk about it they will either get it and want to change or get ticked off at you. Either way you will have tried. You've got to decide if you want to talk about it or walk away.
2007-10-08 19:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jane S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ginni...I think you are talking about my mom!!! Unfortunately is no joke....I don't know how to deal under those terms either. But, lately I am trying to keep some distance between us, I think is healthier for the two of us....though she doesn't agree. At some point you just have to try to see what makes sense and talking on the phone once or twice a week is not making sense anymore...good luck!
2007-10-08 19:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Martha B will be suspended 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apart from myself?? hee hee yes and they are also a family member. This may sound really bad but I deal with them on my terms and refuse to get involved in anything unless I have to, I stick to my guns which means I may have to constantly repeat myself over and over ( I find if I keep using the same words it helps) it can be really horrible though
2007-10-09 08:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by finn mchuil 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My ex. I don't talk about anything important (about our son) without paper to back it up. The cool thing is, he is finally "getting it" -- our son has Autism, and he was refusing to let him take Ritalin for his ADHD. My son was devastated by his low grades. I asked him how it made him feel when he did poorly in school (he is dyslexic), and that was all it took. Within one month, our son's grades went from Cs and Ds to As. That's when he "got it". So, my ex is not all bad. Just sometimes only sees the little picture. We weren't interested in using Ritalin, but it was a "last ditch effort" and it worked for our son. I'm glad he finally let me get the doctor to prescribe it (joint custody...example of his manipulative nature. I was pregnant with my daughter at the time and couldn't think straight, LOL but we live over an hour away from him now, so it's gotten easier.). Our son is happy now, in advanced classes and loving it. He's no longer bored and he's doing so well!
The moral is, you gotta get it all in writing and avoid making important decisions while pregnant!!
2007-10-08 19:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Serena 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Completly ignore them if possible. Do it so that it irritates them to the bone. I mean dont even speak or acknowledge anything they say or do. Thats what I do.
I mean completly ignore them and pretend they are invisible to you and have no voice. To the point you are being rude. (almost) If there are 3people in the room only talk to two ignore that 3rd person like u would a fart in the elevator.
This will show them they have no power over YOUR life and can not affect you unless you want them to.
2007-10-08 19:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by staymay 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I got rid of her. I say you do the same thing, nothing but trouble will come from it. Think about this, how do you know this person is not using you. I was friends with the girl but she was horrible so I never spoke to her again.
2007-10-08 19:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by basmusiq 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stand your ground and then think about this "is it worth it to have this person in your life??" if not then let them go and let them manipulate someone else because you've had it. You shouldn't have to deal with this kind of stuff and don't let them manipulate you. Remember Stand your ground.
2007-10-08 19:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by miriam_of_edinburgh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋