What is wrong with my wife?

Question

I have been married for seven years, she was 21 and I was 27. We also have a 4 year old child. today she tells me she's not sure she wants to stay married any longer. Her reason is that, we don't have any passion left. She say's she loves me, but she is curious about other men, and living on her own. She did tell me she has been talking to a man for a week. What can I do?

Answer 1

Divorce her or boot her out. If she truly loved you, she wouldn't be talking to another man.

Answer 2

Marriage is a job it is not easy and one can't expect passion to be there all the time. because it is not there is not a reason to go out and get a divorce I think at some point the passion dies and then comes back in every relationship and the reason people make it through is because they don't lie to themselves and think marriage is one big happy bubble and full of passion all the time and in realizing that they also realize the love the person they are with. She is not being realistic
I would try do spice things up if I were you and go get some help for the two of you someone who can expalin things to her. If that doesn't work then I am so sorry but let her go she will see one day that she lost hte best thing she ever had. Also it is hard to be passionate when you have kids find time

Answer 3

You have just been kick to the curb, she will see other guys and you have to decide if you can live with that. She's probably been feeling that something was missing after the birth of your child. Having a child she got stressed by caring for your baby and the feelings are part stress and part hormonal. When she is out discovering passion again, you are going to get pulled several different ways because you can't do anything about what she does. You have to get used to her not being there for you or your child. You could ask for both of you go to a marriage counselor, but i don't think that will go over very well with her unless she really wants to. Be prepared for getting a lawyer.

Answer 4

Nothing is wrong with your wife at all, but if there is no passion left then this is obviously why she has left and now on her own, be thankful that she is not actually cheating on you . she did the right thing by being honest and leaving first. Maybe you should re evaluate your relationship and take a few good steps back and try to find where the passion started to fade., when that goes so do many other things like feelings of being attractive etc etc, try to think so you can fix them and hopefully it is not too late. Also give her space she needs the time too to re think things, it takes two also to keep the passion alive so it is not just your fault but hers as well. be adult about it and sit down and have a really long heart to heart about it . also there is your child to think about too. so this really does need to be resolved. good luck.

Answer 5

Talk about the classic "seven year itch", the sad truth is she married very young and is now beginning to feel she may have missed out. She may have to learn the hard way that "hot passion" and 'total excitement' don't last, but a marriage starts to feel comfortable and you settle into a routine. It does not mean its bad, it just means you may have to work at it to keep your marriage alive and vibrant. Go to counseling with her and see if she wants to try and save the marriage, you have a four year old child together and you both have to be willing to work at it or it will not work and eventually you will divorce. fight for your marriage and get into couples therapy, especially since she says she still loves you and has not really done anything yet. Good Luck

Answer 6

Sounds like the Seven Year Itch to me. Put some passion back in your marriage. You can figure out what to do, but just in case you can't -remember what you did when you were dating? If you are man enough to want to do something about the situation, you are man enough to make sure she wants only you. Use your imagination. If you need some help, there are plenty of places to find it -a marriage counselor to start with. How about a romantic night out, with some passion thrown in too, for starters. Oh, and get a babysitter.

Answer 7

Ok the news you got is not easy to take but at least she is being open with you about it so it sounds like she does care. I think you two need to sit down and have a very serious conversation. It is natural for her to question things but not ok to act on them. See if there is anything you can do to bring the passion back, find out if there is anything you can do to save the marriage. If not you may need to let her go. Also in this talk let her know that cheating is not ok and that would be a deal breaker. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

If she thinks you don't have any passion left, prove her wrong!
Romance her, sweep her off her feet, basically just remind her why she married you in the first place.

Women need to know they are still desirable and sexy, and that is probably what this other guy is doing. Uh-uh, that's your job.

Remember the basics, flowers, candy, cards, tell her how much you love her, how beautiful, smart, sexy, funny she is. Make love to her like it's the first time, ask her how she feels and LISTEN to the answer. Often.

Sounds like your wife is really craving some special attention. Just make sure she gets that from you. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Im sorry.
Let her go if you try to make her stay it will make it worse and she will rebel. She will eventually see the light and proabably come back crying. If anything, invest in a babysitter and take her on a date, be romatic. If aftr that she still wants her room let her go and fall first. She probably got married too young for her maturity. In the mean time if she wants her cake and eat it too, you also have a right to mingle with other woman if you choose. If you need to talk about it ( strictly platonic of coarse),email me.

Answer 10

Has she expressed any interest in trying to make things work? If not, there isn't much you can do to make her stay. It takes two people to work on the problems in a relationship and if she isn't on board you are just going to end up doing a lot for nothing. First, ask her if she wants to continue the marriage and look for ways to resolve the problems. If she says, "no" then the practical thing would be to speak with an attorney and protect your rights. If she says "yes" then look for a good marriage counselor. Good luck and I hope she says "yes".

Answer 11

She is bored for the moment. Try doing things to spice up the marriage. Tell her that she can't have the both of you. Let her know that you are willing to try and work things out but you can't do it by yourself. You can get the passion back if she gives it a chance. Try romancing her. Date her again and treat her like a girlfriend instead of your wife.