Don't worry it's not suicide, she's lost the will to get good grades.
She has an F and a C. Just some family background, we are Indian (Asian) meaning me (older bro) and my sister up to this point hav never gotten anything below a B.
She is just a sophomore- I'm a senior. If anyone should be slacking right now its me but I'm studying 4-12 everyday (of course very inefficiently) while she is studying too but still getting F's.
My mom and her just had a heart to heart, and she knows she SHOULD be trying, but she just doesn't seem to care, she can't find the will to get good grades, the urge for academic success.
She's definitely smart and hasn't had any problems up to this point.....DOES ANYONE HAV A SOLUTION!!!!
How do I motivate my sister?? Help her through this??
my parents are going to pieces, and they've even started comparing the two of us and lamenting.
I'm going to college next year I dont need **** between my family, how do I FIX THIS!!!
2007-10-08 12:13:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You are such a caring brother seems like a very tight knit family.. girls at this age,will tend to get into friends or a boy may be the case i don't know.
when you talk to her start off by telling her how smart she is and if her grades are falling is it because of a boy, if so then inform her that boys and friends are not gonna be there when she really needs them and the chances of her friends being there when she graduates are slim let her know she makes her life she creates it and then ask her what her goal is when she graduates? then let her know what is needed to get there. and that her know that you will be there every step of the way. find out if its because she simply doesn't understand the work or what?? could be friends and boys then once you find out what is causing her grades to drop educate her on the seriousness of being consistent now and in order to get into a prestigious college she has to be consistent
When i was in hs i went from a-bs to a c average and my oldest brother noticed he was on the way to the navy and he sat and talked to me.i had been going thru things emotionally i was overwhelmed with alot and hadnt told anyone cause my mom was too busy, my brother saved me.
2007-10-08 12:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by laylajai74 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, at that age I think it might work best to simply let her experience the natural consequences of her behavior. Assuming she doesn't have a specific problem or some distraction, this is a behavioral issue. But she's not a child anymore, and she can reason and make most decisions for herself. Outside influences will have little effect, it will take internal influences most likely. If she gets an F, then she gets an F, let her experience that and see what it feels like along with the effect.
2007-10-08 19:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it is time for you to go away to school try not to take the worries of the world with you.It will not help you or your sister.Talk to your sister and offer your support but continue in your studies.Maybe your sister just needs a little time to sort things out.We don't always take the straight road ,we sometimes take twists and turns in life.Perhaps your sister is experiencing stress.....from school and from your family to excel. Maybe the high expectations placed on her are too much for her.Maybe she feels she will not be able to maintain such a high standard and disappoint others.Your parents, although they mean well, should not compare you,you are two different people.Does your sister have friends,extra curricular activities, social life....anything that she chooses to do ,that interests her.You are to be commended in excelling at school but sometimes people need to have something to do that is fun. but not to be confused with being irresponsible.
2007-10-08 19:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha being Asian doesn't mean you're automatically smart. I'm Asian and I get average grades. Don't blame things on a stereotype.
2007-10-08 19:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Spongeluv11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats hard. well, what if you helped her with her homework. i mean last year i sucked at math like i passed maybe one test last year. i had just lossed the will power to want to pass. finally my two best friends in the whole wide world helped me. and i just found out today that i PASSED!!!!
2007-10-08 19:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might have to learn by her own mistake
2007-10-08 19:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋