2007-10-08 10:54:57 · 19 answers · asked by bbq 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Think before you speak. Know that you are wired differently from your spouse so no talking or preaching will change the person you married.
Keep the love alive by remaining good friends and always treating each other respectfully.
2007-10-08 10:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
We've been happily married 37 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:
1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.
2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.
3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.
4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.
2007-10-08 19:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember to appreciate each other; say thank you for the things you do for each other. Let each other know you still desire them. Please don't 'sweat the small stuff' in life; it really doesn't matter that much; let those things go. Talk to each other as this is your friend, confidante, as well as lover or mother or father of your children, if any. Be honest. Be grateful for each moment you have as you never know when it could be snatched away from you as we never know what life will bring. Laugh, laugh, laugh and have fun. And please, when tempted to be unfaithful, take 5 minutes to really think about it before you react; as you will hurt the one you love the most more than anyone else could in life. Turn toward each other; not away when you have fears or doubts or concerns. It is your marriage, your business and your communication that really matters.
2007-10-08 18:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is not about you.....it's about your partner. when you think like this there's no room for selfishness and. You do what you can for him and he does what he can for you. MAKE YOURSELF AWARE OF YOUR PARTNERS NEEDS!!! have compassion, be able to communicate with each other, be able to bend. Do things he or she likes even though it's not your favorite thing to do. NEVER quit holding hands, kissing and telling each other you love them. Sex is very important. It slows down after being married for a while, but it should never stop completely. Keep yourself healthy for yourself and each other. Plan for the future and set up goals you can reach together. discuss finances and be able to trust each other with money. Love your children, but always put each other first. Many may not agree with this, but children love to see their parents holding hands or kissing and caring for each other. When each parent takes care and loves each other, they are secure in their love and have more love to give to the kids. Don't ever take each other for granted. Each day is a new day to work on marriage and think of creative ways to show your partner you love them. A call in the middle of the day from work, a card, a special gift just because. Use YOUR imagine and think of ways to tell and show your mate you love him/her.
2007-10-08 18:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
1. Trust her.
2. Give her space to do what she likes.
3. Give her money to do what she likes.
4. Give her all the time she needs to do what she likes.
5. Take care of the kids, so she will have her time.
6. Show her that you love her.
If you do the above, she will love you, turst you, and let you do what you like.
2007-10-08 18:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by harold 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Communication
Realize your mate is not perfect, nor are you
Tolerance....we all have our quirks that are irritating....
Remember the times when your mate was especially sweet or did something really stupid to make you laugh to get you past an argument...I will be really mad at him for something, and then I step away from it all to remember a silly time we shared, just to get to the forgiveness part....
Love him/her as you vowed to do for better or worse, don't throw in the towel. All love is worth fighting for....
2007-10-08 18:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by mowsermae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Make sure you each find interests that you like separately!
Example: she likes to paint, he likes to fix things, cars, etc.
Don't lose that!
When your older and the kids are grown and moved out, you can not be your partners only form of entertainment! It becomes Mundane, Suffocating, and Stifling!!
2007-10-08 18:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always communicate your feelings be honest, and remember that this person should be your best friend. Share it with your spouse first. Women: be spontaneous when he least expects it; Men: Do the little things around the house to show her that you care.
2007-10-08 18:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been together 20 years, lots of sex, 2 kids, love him more than ever, plenty of wisdom--email me for more specifics.
2007-10-08 18:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Respect.
2007-10-08 18:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by open4one 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋