What would you say to a mother who left a 2 year old unattended?

Question

and was hit by a car and was killed.
A neighbors neice left her child unattended, the child crossed the street and was "knocked " out of her shoes and later died.
I feel so badly for the mom this must be devastating to her. I am going tot he funeral with the uncle on Friday. He had bought the little baby her shoes, they were there in the street

Answer 1

This was here in S.C.? What do you say? All you can say is "I'm so sorry." I too feel so badly for the family, especially the mother, having experienced the pain of losing a child myself, in 1988 (my youngest) I know all too well what the mother is going through right now. I will say a prayer for the family, especially the mother. I'm glad you're going to the funeral. The family needs all the support they can get & that support will comfort them for years to come.

*jacielyn....Thank you!

Answer 2

You'll decide when you see the grieving mother and the
emotion in the room overwhelms you. The most appropriate
thing you can do for a grieving mother, wife, daughter, etc.
is to extend your hand for theirs, and tell them how deeply
sorry you are, for their loss. And if you are religious, you can
add that you will pray for them to find the peace and closure
to go forward with their life. Acceptance of such a sudden
loss, is such a difficult thing. Children are not supposed to
leave this earth, before their parents. That's the way it's
supposed to be, isn't it? And yet, all too frequently, innocent
children are taken from their parents. And it's something no
one can understand. So acceptance is slow but not the anger.
And it takes the support from both family and friends to help in this and to also provide comfort to the shock that extends into the weeks and months ahead. Being there to
support the mother is all she could ask for. Not being alone
while struggling through the horror of loss that is a living nightmare.

Answer 3

"I am so sorry for your loss." The poor woman probably didn't do it on purpose. Yes, it's tragic, but nothing is going to bring back her child, so don't berate her. She has to live with this the rest of her life. She probably should be on suicide watch.

I'm only saying this because we just had a car accident in our town where a mothers car was hit because the stop sign was covered by tree branches. All three of her children were killed instantly and buried together. She is on suicide watch.

Just love her and let her know that she still has a friend.

Answer 4

OMG I can't even imagine . I have a 3 year old. I know I am paranoid about things happening to her but this just kind of proves my point. I NEVER leave my child alone or unattended If she is in her bedroom asleep she still has to get past me before she can even get to a door that leads outside. She sleeps with me and of course I have doors childproof so she can't open it. I also teach her that it is not safe to go out with out mommy and daddy. Did the mother leave her child alone or did she just leave the room for a min. If she just left the room for a min. then I have to say she is probably beating her self up enough. If she left the house or went to sleep then I think she should be punished. Kids do not ask to be born we bring them into this world and it is our responsibility to take care of them and see to it that they are kept safe and loved. My deepest sympathy to all who has ever lost a child. God Bless

Answer 5

I am not a great believer in "she will live with this the rest of her life" bit...the child will not live for any kind of life. Very sad, indeed. Some people do not have the brains to be parents, the world seems to be filled with them lately. AT least, the child felt nothing. Better than frying in a locked car ...and that still happens all the time. WE have all done stupid things, most of us escape serious retirbution...some of us don't, and this woman is one who didn't escape. Neither did the child...nor the driver...the driver is the one I feel sorry for!...that could happen to any of us at any moment, and trust me, the driver WILL live with it the rest of their life...the mother will rationalize her actions in time...but the driver will never get over it. Goldwing

Answer 6

That is sad. Those two year olds can sneak away fast. I feel for the family and also for the person who hit the child. I could not imagine the hell they are all going through. I would just say that you are sorry for their loss. I'm sure that most of this will be a blurr for them anyway. Funeral services for children are the hardest to attend.

Answer 7

The awful is, the mother will live with this guilt all her life, and a child is dead. Why did she do it? Had she not read about the McCanns. You actually don't know what to say. On the one hand, you want to tell the mother that she was being totally irresponsible, and on the other, you feel for her because of the loss of her child. Awful.

Answer 8

Oh, I am so sorry is all you can say. This poor woman is going to feel guilty for the rest of her life. I hope she gets some kind of grief counselling. These toddlers are so quick ,it can happen to anyone. I lost my daughter in the mall ,when she was 2 1/2 and I remember how frantic I was. We tend to think our own children are smarter than others and wouldn't wander away, but they do. How very tragic!

Answer 9

You just go to her and comfort her and tell her you are there for her if she ever needs you and tell her how sorry you are for her loss.... This mother will feel guilty about the death of her child for the rest of her entire life....this is something sometimes you just don't get OVER... with time, the pain will ease somewhat but she will NEVER forget that her carelessness cost her her daughter and she does NOT need to be reminded of this ESPECIALLY at the funeral...

Answer 10

Oh my God, that is all mother's worst fear. Well the fact that they go before you and the fact that she left her will mean this poor girl is going to be inconsolable with guilt and remorse.

She's going to need a lot of emotional support to get her through this, if she ever recovers. I would put her on informal suicide watch if I was the family. I know I couldn't let my little kids go it alone, oh I crying just talking to you. I'm not a religious person, but I'd say pray for her