Yesterday when we dropped off the children at the designated meeting spot, her car wouldn't start. She was huffing and puffing and cursing under her breath and treating him really badly....I have not spoken a word to this woman in three years other than hello. Yesterday she acused my husband of having jumper cables in the car, the second time she said this if front of the kids, i said they are in the other car...the oldest 16 told me to shut up that it was none of my business and the second oldest 14 started yelling at me because of....honestly I don't know what. Today her family gave her money to take us to court because she says that I am disruptive and a poor influence on the kids....that she is physically afraid of me. Why? I don't know In past years she has told his family that i am a drug addict...they beleived her because they at the time hadn't met me. I am going out of my mind right now. I feel I need to take legal action for slander and alienation. What would you do?
2007-10-08 10:08:14 · 12 answers · asked by Rein 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not the reason for the divorce and I don't even drink.
2007-10-08 10:08:41 · update #1
You need to sit back and take a few deep breaths...you are rapidly coming unglued.
2007-10-08 10:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
in the same situation now , they can talk all they want about you , if its not true , nothing can come of it, its their burden to prove you r abusive and on drugs. id offer myself up to a drug test . the kids were screaming at you because there mother was upset and causing a scene and they were upset, id talk to your husband about the oldest telling you to shut up and the middle yelling , id tell him you wont tolerate that behavior and he should have told his children to not act like that towards you. start documenting everything, outbursts like that day and other days , dont allow her to start a fight , sit in the car with the windows rolled up , or just dont go for drop off and pick ups. If she wants to waste her familys money on things that arent true , then let her. people have a way of looking like fools when they are one . get a tape recorder and put in your purse and on , when you drop and pick kids up , dont let kids know about it . If there is a confrontation then it will be on tape, if you take legal action for slander and alienation you will only further alienate the children from you and their father.
2007-10-08 17:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ஐDanielleஐ♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Taking aggressive legal action at this point will only make things worse. If she does file a suit, you'll need representation, but I'd wait and see if it happens. In the meantime, you need to be squeaky clean. If you so much as breathe in the direction of a bar, they'll haul it into court.
It appears that their mother's behavior has given the kids permission to mistreat you as well. You need to talk to your husband about that. It is his job to sit them down and tell them that they MUST show you respect. He also needs to be the one disciplining the kids. If you do so, she'll say you're abusing them.
The only thing you can do is stay out of things and try to maintain your cool.
Ladies, this is why you think twice before you marry a man with minor children.
2007-10-08 17:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Terri J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't do anything shes just waiting 4 u to do something so she can get u 2 look bad. let her do what ever she wants just sit back and let her make an *** of herself.don't let her make u look like the bad guy.saying thing r her way of getting 2 u don't give her the upper hand.u r better than that.when u go 2 court they will see just how she is .and all the things she did will come out. don't play her game if she says things let it go u and your husband know better.shes not worth it. stay strong and show everyone u r the better1.
2007-10-08 17:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by kim d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your husband about this.
The sixteen year old yelling at you is completely disrespectful, and I would take authority and tell that little brat to never speak that way to me, unless they want a beating.
It sounds like your husband has alot of baggage. I don't know what could be done about this situation, other than counseling for everyone...So that you all can learn to be mature and get along.
But that has a long shot of working.
I wouldn't waste my time going to court, if I were you. It's just a waste of time and would make the situation worse.
His wife isn't setting a good example for the children, which probably where they get their bad attitudes. If you take her to court, then do it for the children's benefits.
2007-10-08 17:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all your husband should not let his children talk to you in that manner. You are doing the right thing by steering clear of this woman. Don't take legal action as that can get costly. Stand your ground and the trust will come out in the end. It always does. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-10-08 17:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you haven't done any of these things, I wouldn't worry about this too much. You know your a good person as well as your husband. There would have to be proof. If the kids were willing to lie to a judge, then maybe you and your husband are better off without them temporarily. Divorces involving children can be very upsetting and emotional for all involved. Good Luck.
2007-10-08 17:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by LoraC 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
She is an ex and stepparents are often used as scapegoats for all parties. If there is nothing to back up her allegations then I would wait until I found out if they were idle threats or not. If you think there will be problems, get a lawyer and get their advice. Sometime you can get a pretty inexpensive consultation, relatively anyhow. Good luck
2007-10-08 17:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by scsspace 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell your husband to get a backbone and put his ex in her place....He also needs to learn how to discipline his kids.....She is one manipulative and controlling b*tch that wants her way or the high way....I would contact an attorney...to see if you could sue her for slander and or defamation.
2007-10-08 17:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'd meet her in court with my attorney and tear her *** up until there is nothing left of it.
2007-10-08 17:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋