My best friend thinks she's pregnant, she's 14. No it's not my kid, I consider her my sister, i love her more than my real brother, she's like a role model to me. I would do ANYTHING for her. She doesn't know if she wants an abortion, I am picking her up a new test today, if it's positive, what do we do? Is helping her raise it a good idea? I'm 13.
2007-10-08 09:36:21 · 16 answers · asked by Fol67 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No, she does not have a good family. Her dad is a drunkard and her mom is a bum. I'm her family. And I know I can take fairly good care of a child.
2007-10-08 09:55:43 · update #1
U know one thing I can't stand is when people underestimate other people under a certain age. Age is nothing but a number some teens take better care of their children then someone of my age would. Yes you should tell the parents cause they can help with what's needed. Tell her to just relax take the test and if it's positive tell her parents and do what's right for her. If she's going to raise it then tell her to make a doc's appt. and start taking prenatal pills as soon as possibe and let her know everything is going to be ok regardless. She can go to school until she's 8 months after she has the baby she can have someone watch him or her while she's at school there's no reason to drop out. Mistakes happen and it's alot of people saying just stop having sex when they probably did the same thing when they were younger and u can still get pregnant when the man is wearing a condom. Tell her maybe to consider birth control if she's not or if she thinks it's easier then just don't have sex it's ok almost everyone has had a pregnancy scare.
2007-10-08 09:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by maichellaih♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is pregnant she needs to tell an adult. If it is not a good idea to tell her parents for safety concerns tell a guidance counselor or a female she considers a role model. She can also go to a planned parenthood or community clinic. As for you you are only 13! Definatly stick by her side she is going to need you for support no doubt about that. But if you are talking about taking on a father role I do not think that is a good idea. Be there for her and help her when she needs it most. But if she does keep the baby there are so many support groups. It seems like she has a good friend watching over her. Tell her not to get an abortion it is not the childs fault, but adoption is always an option. Whatever she decides to do good luck! Hope everything turns out well!
2007-10-08 10:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There options other than abortion. Does she have a good family life where her parents would help in raising the child? does she have support other than you? If not stop at your local Children and youth center, or even planned parenthood and look at all your options. If she decides to carry the baby to term she is going to need alot of support. being 14 she may not be able to care for the baby and give it the life she would like, and her being a wonderful girl as you imply, she may want to give her baby the best life possible and adoption is a great option. there are open ended adoptions where she can still be part of the baby's life should she not want to give it up completely. help her do some research, she will be glad not to be in it alone.
also abortions can cause alot of trama and complications to a women, it can cause severe depression, and may affect her ability to have children in the future when she wants to. look up some information on abortion before you consider it as a optimal possibility. please look into some of the writings from post-abortive women
in the end it is her choice and you will be a wonderful friend to stay by her side whatever she chooses,
2007-10-08 09:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first have her take a home pregnancy test. Have her take it first thing in the morning, because the hormone level is highest in the urine at that time, when it's most concentrated.
If she's not pregnant, she needs to stop having sex all together - she's obviously not ready for the responsibilities of being a parent.
If she is pregnant, she needs to tell her parents asap, because she'll need support from everyone. Have her talk to her parents about her options - either adoption or keeping the child.
I believe it will be hard for the two of you to raise a child, since you are children, yourself. Consult her parents if she is in fact pregnant. She'll need all the support and a stress-free life (or as much as possible anyway) to have a healthy pregnancy.
Good luck!
2007-10-08 09:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah 14 is young but if she is pregnant she will have to decide if she REALLY wants the baby, i think whether she decided to give it up, abort it, or keep it it will be hard, the first thing she needs to do is go to her Dr. and get an official and much more accurate test. if it comes back positive she needs to talk with her parents, maybe it would help if you two talked to them together even though its NOT yours it could help HER feel more at ease. if you think you are prepared to HELP her raise a child then read up on it and be there as a friend or uncle to the child NOT a father.
2007-10-08 09:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by chrissy. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is very noble of you to help her, but right now if she is, she has a lot of choices to make and you should definitely let her know that you are there for her!!! First she has to tell her parents, i know all to well of the fear of telling parents, but at her age she won't be able to see her Doctor without her parents, and she will need to see a doctor, and if she chooses to have an abortion, at her age she will need parental consent!! So you guys should sit down with her parents, and let them know. I have two kids and i am only 21 and i have had an abortion, so if you need any more advice, just send me an e-mail!! Good Luck! Stacielb06@yahoo.com
2007-10-08 09:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by stacielb06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 13.... you aren't gonna be trying to raise her kid once you turn 17, 18 or 19. You need to live your life. Help her out, be supportive but DONT take a responsibility on like that. She might not even be pregnant. The best thing you can do for her is try to help her through this time and if she isn't pregnant, buy her some condoms and tell her to not have unprotected sex again!!!! It's too much to risk.
2007-10-08 09:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by babymama. 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Give her as much emotional support as possible not judgement. She needs you as a friend right now. She and her parents should contact a local clinic. She will need to talk to her parents because she is under age. If she isn't pregnant tell her to STOP HAVING SEX . Wait till you get married. Focus on school and enjoying you childhood!
2007-10-08 09:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by luxemomny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's pregnant, then she needs to let her parents know. Maybe you could go with her when she tells them.
Abortion is not an option because an innocent baby always dies.
There is always adoption, or having the baby and raising it with the help of her family.
And you and your friend need to remember that the only "safe sex" is NO SEX until marriage.
Prayers for you.
2007-10-08 09:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is pregnant, the first thing she needs to do is go to her parents. They can help guide her and find the right people to talk to. This really is not up to you, the only thing you can do is support her and help her through this.
2007-10-08 09:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by TD R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋