so i have, (or maybe had now) this guy friend that i used to talk to alot. He finds himself needing to impress me all the time. Im sure he has a crush on me (or had) but i never liked him. Hes very violent and disrespectful to s and everybody else.
Id like to consider him my friend, but i dont want him to disrespect me. I've tried telling him that he needs to be respectul but he just brushes me off, hes even threatend to shoot me (idt he was serius) and recently he would not let me past him cuz he wanted to 'talk' so in a rage, trying to get past him i got mad and bit him.....whoops. but everytime somthing happens hell tell me im not fit to be living, or im a low life etc. then hell come back and be like "Rachel! why arent you talking to me!?" Now im trying to avoid him. How can I pound it into his head that if he wants to hang with me hes gotta be a gentleman?
PS sorry this Q was so long, i had alot to let out!
2007-10-08 09:23:40 · 10 answers · asked by backonpjsaddle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He need to get counseling somewhere and when he is in one of his good moods you have to let him know that. If you are still in school, let the counselors know that he is violent and disrespectful and if he hassles you at home consider getting a restraining order against him. Just the fact that he mentioned shooting you and said that you are not fit to be living should be red flags going up! Read the newspapers anywhere in this country and you will read of some kid taking a gun to school and start shooting and remember that it may have been someone like you, trying to see the best in people, who didn't say or do anything that made that possible.
I admire that you want to get this guy to be a gentleman but sometimes that is not possible and you need to see how dangerous that situation could possibly be.
2007-10-08 09:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let's just clarify why in the world you want to be friends with someone who is so disrespectful and violent towards you?
If he is that way with most people, then why do you you think he could or would treat you differently?
My best advise is leave this guy alone. Many of these guys are just full of hot air but there are just as many who really are violent and dangerous. Either way, his attitude, the things he says etc.., are just not okay.
I think you need to send a very clear message and then steer clear of him.
2007-10-08 16:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes an old dog can't learn new tricks. No, I'm not saying he's old.... but some people just aren't capable of change! Whether they're too close-minded or just think too highly of themselves... they don't feel they need to change for the better. Sounds like you've known him for a bit... he's had a while! I honestly think you should drop this guy and if he asks why tell him you don't respect people that don't respect you!
2007-10-08 16:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Navy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is violent you need to be very careful. Try not to go places he does, change u r phone number. I would tell him over the phone rather than in person, just because of his violent history
2007-10-08 16:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this guy is not your friend. You need to get and stay away from him. He seems very dangerous. Just continue to ignore him and if you have to get a restraining order. What ever you do stay away from this guy.
2007-10-08 16:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by owie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy has had a long drug abbusive alcoholic history. Why would you even want to be friends with someone like that?
2007-10-08 16:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Wylie Dun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find someone else . . . this didn't work out well and you need to find someone who does not say horrible things to you. I'm not excusing you for biting him but the dynamic between the two of you is not healthy.
2007-10-08 16:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, you aren't going to change him. What you do need to do is put some distance between you before you get hurt.
2007-10-08 16:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say steer clear of this guy. He sounds like bad news.
2007-10-08 16:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no long just continue to ignore him when he says why aren't you talking to me tell him why don't you tell me why mr ungentalman!
no infact i would reather have it in righting buzz off!
2007-10-08 16:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋