I see shows and know of men who call a baby awful names, I guess to punish the babies mother, but if she changes her cheating ways, and you still love her, why would a man not accept the baby as his? I mean what difference does it make, it will become a loving person, if treated lovingly, right? What difference does it make if the babe came from your blood, or not?
Yes, I know men probably cheat on women more than men, but that isn't the question. Thanks, folks!
2007-10-08 09:07:28 · 14 answers · asked by xenypoo 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
some men cant be MEN , and put the child first, and some men just dont have it in them to raise another persons child. who knows why , i find it immature and think no matter who the kids parent is , every adult in their life should love them unconditonally.
2007-10-08 09:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ஐDanielleஐ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women cheat as much as men and many times more. When a women does it is more devastating to men then women. Men depend more on the women and takes longer to get over it. Women make up their mind and that is it.
Trust is lost love has nothing to do with it. When it breaks down to think it can be fixed is only a fools wish. And it is denial of the highest order.
The statements about men and women can be found on the government and hospital reports kept by the Fed. Government and also for the many women who think it is men that beat women this is not the case and look on TV and movies and books it is OK for a women to hit a man and not OK for man to hit a women. People laugh and men do not speak out about it from embarrassment.
2007-10-08 16:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are different, some people can accept a child even though it is not theirs, and others can't.
It must be really hard for people to accept a child that is not theirs, I have never been there, but I do know of situations where the man adopted a child and took it in on his own, and I also know of men who seperate from the woman because they can't handle it, and that is normal.
And men and women both cheat on eachother, it is not just one that does all the cheating, it is both.
JMO and only JMO.
2007-10-08 16:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think for the same reason a woman wouldn't really want to raise another woman's child that resulted from an affair. No it's not the child's fault, but it is a constant slap in the face to have the child around. Having the affair is bad enough, but to have a baby from it just adds salt to the wound. It takes a selfless person to be able to let go of the hurt and anger enough to accept a child as a result of an affair imho. I know I couldn't do it.
I'm not talking abut previous children. I have a step son that I fully accept, but if my husband had an affair, she got pregnant, and then needed to raise the baby for whatever reason, I don't know that I could stand by him through that.
2007-10-08 16:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is the same with "Stepchildren", they are not one of the couples offspring ; but more often than not , the love one has for the mother or the father of the stepchild supersedes the the issue of deceit because the child is already in the world , and the non parent doesn`t have to endure seeing the duration of a pregnancy while the bewilderment builds.. It is the idea that a step child has his / her pass behind them rather than having to watch the development of a child that one knows is not his .
2007-10-08 19:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby will be a constant reminder of the mother's betrayal and infidelity. In addition if the baby looks like the real father, it will make him feel that much worse. Unfortunatly,the man who is not hte father may take that resnetment out on the child instead of the mother.
2007-10-08 16:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by ninsianna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Richard Bach said it best, members of a family are not always born under the same roof - hope I got that quote right but the idea is there. If she comes back to him and the relationship is sound, the child is part of the family regardless of who the father is
2007-10-08 16:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if we were together at the time he knocked someone up, then he can go to that woman...i don't want him around anymore. I'm not going to blame the baby (it didn't choose it's dumbass parents), but we wouldn't be together another minute. I've never seen a cheater change completely, and the trust will never be there again...
2007-10-08 16:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Basically its the same reason why ppl get divorced when one person cheats it doesn't mean the person who was cheated on just lost all the feeling they were deeply hurt and can't move past it. Same thing here with the baby whom they will see everyday and remind them of the unfaithfulness it makes it even harder to move past.
2007-10-08 16:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by blueeyd_princess 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree, If I could get over the fact that my husband had an affair then I could handle the baby because it would be part of my husband, and this little baby wasn't asked to be brought in this world this way!!!
2007-10-08 20:15:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋