he says she listens to him and she says she will make a better wife than me
2007-10-08 08:49:37 · 21 answers · asked by holla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he's a fool for leaving you. be happy he could be doing you a favor. giving you a chance to meet a better man.
2007-10-08 09:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband leaves you for the woman that he cheated with .... It is going to hurt like hell!
You need to let it hurt ... be sad for a while. AND THEN ...
Make a decision to MOVE ON with your life!
You want to be with someone who believes in how valuable
and how precious YOU are. Don't settle for any less than that!
Choose to look at it as HIS lost and YOUR GAIN. Now you will be free and available for a REAL MAN that has the
maturity and commitment to "go the distance!"
Reach out to compassionate family and friends for support.
Remember .... It is YOU that gets to decide if this ruins your life or not .... And I say DON'T LET IT! And don't "buy" into
that crap about she listens better etc. .... That is your husband's way of making YOU take responsibility for HIS lack of honor and commitment. Don't question what YOU did
wrong. .... It is clear that your husband was unfaithful and
there is NO WAY that HE can JUSTIFY THAT .... EVEN if you were a horrible wife .... He should have fought to improve the
situation .... went to marriage counseling ... whatever ... but
NOT turn to ANOTHER woman! You can't control your husband's actions ... But you can control your response!
Be determined to do GREAT things with your life ... Make
yourself happy .... That will be the best revenge!
2007-10-08 09:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are sad and confused because you did not see it coming! Get yourself into some therapy - enabling an emotionally abusive husband is not a good thing - you are self destructing and allowing another to be the destructer. Forget about him - he is the past, make sure he pays for your child and that you are receiving alimony. Otherwise keep him as far away from you as you can. In time, if you follow therapy you should start to gain some self esteem, realizing that you are worthy of better relationships instead of mooning over a person who has no respect for you.
2016-03-13 07:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
Been there, don that. My husband did the same thing he kept his affair a secret for 6 months. He left me and went to live with her. He tried to play it off as everything was perfect. I knew better. One day he started calling me alot at work , on my cell and at home. I was always to busy to listen. One day he showed up at my door step and told me how things were not as good as he made them out to be. He said that she never stopped talking to her husband . She was always with him when he was at work and always said that it was because of the kids.
I had the last laugh. I told him when he left that when she showed him what a true Wh$%r she was was then he would remember me. You see people never change who they are they just get better at hiding it. He wants back in our lives. He can be a DAD all he wants but he can never be my husband again.
The tru revenge was letting him go and living better than him. I bought a house, a car and made lots of friends. He on the other hand lost his kids respect, his moneey, his hair, weight, and the respect of our famlies and friends.
Now he has no car, no job, no money and no friends. KAHRMA ;KAHRMA;KAHRMA you will always reap what you sew.. He got it back 7 fold.
Now all I feel is sorry for him. He lost everything even the girl he gave it up for. She is now back with her husband and 2 months pregnant. It isn't his, she left him three months ago. She also left him with a thought. She had been cheating on him with her husband. LMAO!!
So girl live better than him and be happy he will get his I promise.
2007-10-08 09:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Monica R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be glad that he is gone!! You can consider whether she is right that she listens to him more but that does not mean much because maybe he talks to her more than he did you. Just the fact he cheated on you is enough reason to get rid of him but if it is just a change for him, expect that he may want to come back in time - don't let him - get a divorce now.
2007-10-08 08:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU go to a lawyer and file for divorce. You are entitled to half of everything you have together....maybe more since he cheated (depends on where you live). If he cheated on you, he will eventually cheat on her, so you can take comfort in that fact. He's the cheating sort. She is in for the same trouble down the road that you have now. You are best rid of him and his cheating ways, honey. I know it hurts. Just choose a better guy next time. Get to that lawyer and get what's yours.
2007-10-08 08:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This question reminds me of my single days. Whenever a married man would try and approach me with, "my wife just doesn't understand me..." I would always reply, "No, I think the problem is your wife DOES understand you." Just leave it to karma. Move on with your life cause the best revenge is to live well. He is living in la-la land and he will regret his choice sooner or later. In the meantime, be happy you got out when you did.
2007-10-08 09:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all likelihood what will happen is that in a few years he'll have found someone else and be telling her the other women listens to him. Then you have the last laugh.
2007-10-08 09:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be glad he is out of your life. Sure it hurts. But do you really want to be with someone like this? My guess is, he will be with this other women for a while until the next best thing comes along and then he'll be in "love" with someone new.
2007-10-08 08:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by RLW 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell him not to let the door hit him in the a*s on the way out!
When he is with her, the novelty will wear off real fast, and she will become the boring wife who doesn't listen.
Karma is a real b*tch, and will come back to bite them both in the butt.
Be glad that you aren't stuck with the loser.
2007-10-08 09:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋