I feel that I'm able to attract only losers in a relationship- how do I overcome this tendency?

Question

TYPE A Women

I have an ideal image of "my kinda woman" (Type A) - my mom is a strong, confident and attractive woman (even at the age of 50) and a perfect role model. In my teenage years, I was attracted to both my Physics and Biology teachers who were confident, charming and highly mature.

TYPE B Women

Every time I dated in life, it had to be the same attention-seeking loser specimen (Type B) who're not sure about themselves. I was p!ssed off at their indeciseveness and their inability to judge properly- also they showed psychological dependence on men for every aspect of their lives and were looking for their "father" as a male mentor in their prospective boyfriends. I had to sit and console them, listen to their emotional wham-wham and it was such a one-sided affair.

Honestly, I do see the Type A women around me (though it's like 3 out of 50) and most of them seem to be older (35>).

Is something wrong with me in not being attracted at all to Type B women majority?

And yes, I've only dated young women so far (<22 years)-I'm myself 25

Answer 1

Maybe because Type A women avoid type B men. If you want the kind of person you say you want then you need to look at yourself closer. It seems likely that you let the women in your life pick you or why else would you end up with women you clearly aren't attracted to? First and foremost you need to work on making yourself that confident, strong charming person you so highly regard and then you will attract the type of women you want. In fact, you will have the courage to ask out the type of women you want instead of settling for the ones you don't want.

Answer 2

Where do you go to meet guys? If you go to the bar or club then you will get a different type of guy then if you find at say church or the library. You can even find a nice person at work. Work is a great place to find someone (that's where I met my wife) for you get to see them as they really are. If the person is a jerk you will find out pretty quick. What do you like to do? Bike ride, rock climb, read, paint? Use painting as an example, you can take an art class. There you will meet new people and that may lead to meeting the right guy. What are you looking for in a guy? You say you want a nice guy, but that is pretty vague. I can be a nice guy, but if I sit at home all day and watch TV and never get a job, that will make you mad pretty quick. Sure I treat you nice, never yell, or put you down, but at the same time you have to do all the work. So basically you need to look at yourself first. What do you want and what do you like to do? Find a hobby or activity that you are interested in. Next make a check list of the traits that you want in a guy. Nothing is off limits here. You want someone who is blond and 6 foot, fine list that. Does he need to have a job, a 4 year college degree? Great add it to the list. Non-smoker and only drinks on a special occasion, put that down too. It doesn't matter if the list is 5 items or 100 just start with what you want. After you have your list put them in order of importance. If having a job is the most important item list that first and work your way down. This will give you an idea what you are looking for and will help find the right guy. Finally don't settle. When you settle you sell yourself short. Never be with someone just to be with someone. That will just lead to disappointment. Feel confident in yourself and nice guys will find you. I can't speak for all guys, but I like a woman who is strong, confident and knows what she wants. That's why when I found that woman I married her.

Answer 3

I don't understand the question. You're asking if there is something wrong with you for not being attracted to certain characteristics in a woman or are you asking if there is something wrong with you that you only dated women you're not attracted to? If it's the former, no, nothing wrong with you. We're all attracted to different types of people.
if it's the latter then maybe. If you only date women who possess the characteristics you find unattractive then yes, you've got self esteem issues or you have commitment issues or you think you deserve to fail in relationships...

Answer 4

We type A's are hard to find. Most men want a girl they can rescue. It used to make me mad growing up watching all my friends get date after date, but I sat home alone. I couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong, until I realized they "needed" a man, and made it show. I never showed that I "needed" a man, because I don't. It was nice when I finally met my husband who wasn't afraid of a strong woman who could do everything by herself.

I don't know where you can find us, but we are out there.

Answer 5

Umm. no offense but MOST women are like Type B LOL!! Sad but true. I know women at college that feel like their whole lives they want to marry a man to take care of them, but yet they don't want to be house wives 0_o, what kinda weird logic is that LOL! If you want a man to take care of you at least take care of your household(that's only fair) The good thing about me is I don't have to try hard to get a guy, I feel if it's meant to be it's meant to be, why rush? I don't plan on being a housewife with the occupation I want, so I definitely DON'T RUSH. LOL!

Answer 6

maybe you should ltry an older woman for once. And if you still don't find what you are seeking then maybe you are attracted to men?

Answer 7

Water seeks its own level. Always.

Answer 8

Birds of a feather, flock together.

Answer 9

no, there isn't something wrong with you, you just need to learn who someone is before you get involved in a relationship with them. take it slow.

Answer 10

Its not wrong, you just want the best.. I mean.. loser isn't on the "good" side.