I went to school with Sue, but became friends after college. Sue hooked up with my friend (Joe) & dated him, & told Joe not to talk to me. After they broke up, Sue & I hung out again. I began liking Brad, until I found out he had a girlfriend in TX. I stopped liking him & became just friends. Meanwhile, Sue went behind my back & kissed him, then she told me the next day that they had been seeing each other a couple nights a week, but only as "friends". The third time she stabbed me in the back was when she had oral sex with Dan (my big brother), we all went uptown one night, & she followed him home. Even though all this happened she's still my best friend. After a year passed, I meet Jon my fiance. Sue moved 50 miles away. We see each other, but it's not the same. Jon introduced me to his friend Jim and Nic (his fiance). Me and Nic have became good friends, shes never done me dirty, we get along great! Both of them fight over comments on myspace. This is childish of them. What do I do?
2007-10-08 07:22:04 · 20 answers · asked by niknik 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend Sue doesn't sound like a very good friend at all. If they are fighting over comments on myspace then they are very immature especially since you are out of college. I would tell them both to grow up and stop the pettiness. You don't have to have just one best friend. They should realize that.
2007-10-08 07:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by i rule! 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to choose only one best friend. In fact my husband, my sister and a few of my other friends (both guys and girls) are my best friends. Sue doesn't sound like a very good friend, but then again I've had friends that I considered close stab me in the back as well as one of them picking on my sister everyday after school (she and I were in high school while my sister was in elementary and we would walk home together). I even have one friend who keeps grudges for years over stupid things, so what I do is nothing. Time will take its course. There really isn't much you can do if you want to keep both friends~~you can try talking to each of them, but like others have said they may think you are taking sides. Time will tell. Wish you the best and congrats on your upcoming marriage!
2007-10-08 14:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by unicorninlove_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now that sounds like typical MySpace Drama. Someone has to be number one and the other ends up being upset. Just tell them they are both your good friends and put me up as your number one. Just kidding. I usualy put up a dear family memeber as my number one to avoid any competition. I do notice if you change things in the top 5 that I will get a sad e-mail here and there. They both have to respect your right to do what you want to with your" MySpace" and that is it'st their space and jsut because they don't hold a top spot that it doesn't mean they are any less important to you. Jsut for the record. Anyone I would call friend woul dnot stab me in the back. Maybe you need to set some boundries for some of these frineds. have Fun.
2007-10-08 14:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Twigits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do in this case is nothing put it like this sue is a busy body who likes having sex with anybody and nic is seems to be more mature (even through not information is giving about her) if you are letting them know that one or the other is your best friend then you should stop cause that is only causeing conflict you know you who like best and who you would feel safer leaving around you husband by themselves (not that you can't trust your husband but which one would try to come on to him) I guess sue was nice in letting you know that she was messing with Joe, brad and your brother but that doesn't make it right but to answer your question mainly because the word best mean the top of all you can have a tie I guess and have two best friends but that would mean that they are equal and honestly sue doesn't sound like best friendly material
2007-10-08 14:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by the man the myth the answerer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems Sue has some jealious issues about you. Center of attention or what. Just be non challant with Sue. Doesn't sound like a bf to me by the way. friends you can trust and will never do what she did to you. If they keep fighting over you change your myspace and see ya later.. Life is too short
2007-10-08 14:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by amberjake1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sue not at least a friend, and the least ways your best friend.
Nic I don't know.
I don't agree with the fact that you can have only a friend. What's a best friend?
If you will have more than one child, you wont be able to love them all?
I think that each friend has it's role. One knows how to listen, one is perfect for hanging out, one is satisfying your intellectual needs.
Just got to figure out which is which.
Course you can have lots of friends, well, so called "best" friends.
2007-10-08 14:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by angelika 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything. If you don't want to choose between the two hang out with both of them at different times. If you want to choose between the two, choose Nic because she never did you dirty and if you decide to choose Sue make sure you keep your fiance away from her. Make sure they do not become friends.
2007-10-08 14:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by ........... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to think twice about what kind of friends they are.
Friendship is based on loyalty and trust and if Sue is not loyal to you and is doing stuff on your back then she was and will never be a good friend.
It's great to forgive her, but tolerating what she keeps doing even if she shows she couldn't care less is not fair for you.
If you've been loyal why she can't be?
Think about it and if you decide not to keep her as a friend anymore because you are done, then try to find other people who might be real friends with you.
Good luck.
2007-10-08 14:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by bloodymary24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The concept of best friend is relative. At any given point in time your best friend may be different. If you ended up on a deserted island, your best friend would be the native with the canoe and a bottle of water. Just enjoy your time with whatever friend or friends you are with and stop trying to define anyone as your "best" friend.
2007-10-08 14:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by Michael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow you said college way the heck up there!!! This sounds like highschool drama! Tell them both to get over it and GROW UP!!!!!! I have 2 friends that hate eachother b/c one did me wrong too, but they don't fight over myspace! And they are both my friends there. It's your choice, your life. You know what they are and if you choose to still befriend them, that is YOUR bussiness not the others. Good luck....But my advice...Don't tolerate it, and don't back down!!
2007-10-08 14:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋