Married but Bisexual?

Question

ok 1st I am Not talking about me here. I posted this question 3 days ago and I said it wrong. oops! :)

Married but Bisexual?
But you love your husband. Do you think it can work?

btw I have my own views of course but I have been raised with some traditional values about relationships so I want to know what your views are.. :)

Answer 1

Regardless of sexual orientation, fidelity is very important in a marriage. Otherwise, why bother getting married in the first place? It takes 100 times more effort to make a marriage work when there is adultery involved. Regardless of who did the cheating and with which sex. People enter a marriage with their full love and trust in the other individual. Infidelity is out of the question. Bisexuality is not an excuse, even if society tries to make it excusable. ADULTERY IS WRONG PERIOD.

Answer 2

YES!!! WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU?? Why should that bloody matter? Your close friends are closed-minded losers. If he's bi he likes guys and girls. If he was gay it would be slightly different. He's loved you for all this time and this is how you repay him? It probably took him a lot of courage to tell you. Friends don't mean anything when you love someone. When you marry someone you make a big commitment so to make 'friends' influence you is highly stupid. They have their own lives and you can't trust half of them... Believe me, if you were really in love, you'd overlook this and carry on. I don't mean to be harsh. I just got a tad p!ssed off and the other answers didn't help. xx

Answer 3

Here is my thought on it: If you are married and in a committed relationship, you have a responsibility to that person to be faithful and honest, open. I don't care if you are married to a male or a female, the same expectation exists. Fidelity is necessary.

Now, if you are talking about having a 3-way encounter, I think that it depends on the couple, but it oftentimes makes things within the relationship far more difficult to maintain. I do know of couples though with "open" relationships, or, that participate occasionally in 3-somes and are very happily married. I think it takes a specific personality, though.

Answer 4

Yes. Sexual orientation has no correlation with likliness of cheating or happiness. Some men feel uneasy about a bisexual wife because they're under the false assumption that she needs both men and women to feel completely satisfied, hence will try to get her "fix" sooner or later---I'm sure some may, but this is an individual issue, not sexual orientation issue. Not to say some women don't use bisexuality as an EXCUSE to cheat or justify being with others as well.

Answer 5

My own views on marriage involve fidelity, but it is not at all apparent to me that a bisexual person cannot be monogamous. After all, I know of bisexuals who have been celibate for extended periods and who have had lengthy monogamous relationships with one sex and the other. The one I am thinking of had a male lover in his youth who died in war, had a lengthy engagement to a woman, though it didn't work out for other reasons, and had been celibate for an extended period in between.

Do I think that non-monogamy, "open", or "swinging" relationships can work? I have grave reservations about that but would hesitate to speak categorically on the question.

Answer 6

I think that it can, but that depends on the individuals within the relationship.

There has been a trend in which women experiment with bisexuality, because to them it's sexy, fun, and attracts attention, which is fine, everyone is entitled to their own.
But there are other women who are bisexual, and enjoy both a man and woman sexually and/or in a relationship.

I was not married, but my ex and I lived together. He knew that I was bisexual from the time we were dating, was open-minded and supportive of me expressing myself with other women (sexually), I didn't find the need for another man sexually (nor another woman emotionally) because he fulfilled both for me.

I don't think there is a certain standard that works or doesn't work. Each person is different, each couple is their own, and have their way of being as a unit, which works for them.
What works for me may not necessarily apply to someone else, but that's ok, because diversity is what makes our world interesting.

Answer 7

It's entirely possible to be married and bisexual. Whether the bisexual person is a man or a woman.

Sexuality does not denote ones ability to remain faithful to one person.

Answer 8

It's like this . . . "Are you in love with your husband, but you're straight? Can it still work?"

The answer: Of course! Just because you are attracted to someone of the same gender but also married to someone of the opposite sex you love and value it CAN still work. Being attracted or interested in others is probably not going to affect it either way unless one of the persons in the relationship is weak mentally and cheats on their spouse.

Answer 9

It can work as long as everyone involved knows & understands these facts about each other.

Both partners need to talk about what the "limits" are when it comes to interactions / flirtations / cheating ... not just assume the other agrees with their own ideas.

I've dated several bi-sexual women in my past & things worked fine for a while. With one partner, I accepted that she was also attracted to other women - but as long as she did not act upon those attractions... there was no issue (We even had fun together hanging out & checking out attractive women together). With another, she & I both agreed that we would be non-exclusive partners and as long as we only engaged in "safe" interactions we were both fine with each other's behaviors.

As long as everyone is open and honest and y'all know what you're getting into... it's all good.

Answer 10

I think it could work. It depends more on her level of commitment to him. I guess I don't understand the idea that bisexuals can't be monogamous. Just because I'm attracted to men, it doesn't mean I have to have more than one of them! LOL. But I'm interested in hearing from other women on this one, too.