I and this guy were together for a couple of months before he suprises me with a promise ring that looked more like an engagement ring. Well we recently broke up and the ring really means something to me so in dont want to return it, he has asked for it back and wont stop, now it there anyway that he can legally take it back?
2007-10-08 06:59:14 · 11 answers · asked by sweet_bfly02 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
no... it was a gift that was given to you. 9/10 of the law is possession.
You do not need to return it, any man who gives a woman a ring and asks for it back is not a MAN. You don't give things and then ask for them back. It doesn't matter the value of the item.
A man (or anyone) cannot give a lady a candle set and then demand it back when they break up. No it was a gift and that is that. It is your to enjoy or pawn whatever you would like.
I SUGGEST THAT YOU DO NOT GIVE IT BACK. HE WILL LEARN HIS LESSON NOT TO MAKE PROMISES SO EARLY IN A RELATIONSHIP.
The only reason I would suggest you give it back is if it was his mother's ring. If this is the case give it back and let him know not to give it aways so easily.
2007-10-08 07:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by MS.veronica 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Rings given with intention of a continued relationship and/or marriage are viewed differently in different states.
Some say that if you are the recipient and you end the relationship then you have broken the promise/ contract and need to return the ring.
Morally - if he spent a significant amount of money on the ring and you ended the relationship then you should give the ring back. If he is one who ended the relationship then one could argue he broke the promise and you can keep the ring.
Personally - I would hold no sentimentality to a ring that came from a failed relationship and would return it. There is no longer a promise that is to be kept.
2007-10-08 07:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Morally, if he spent a lot of money on the ring, you need to return it to him since you two did not stay together. You would want him to return something to you if the tables were reversed. Be fair and don't worry about what you want, just be honest and fair with others and move on. You still have the good memories you shared with him.
He should wait and get to know someone much longer before he gives gifts like this to anyone. You might suggest that right before you hand the ring back to him. Wish him well and go home and put him behind you. And in the future, don't accept gifts until you have dated someone for several months and you both really know how you feel about it. Infatuation is not a time to promise anyone anything, ya know?
Good luck to you
2007-10-08 07:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it were truly a gift, it is yours. If it were a gift in contemplation of marriage, and the marriage didn't happen, you should return it. So it sounds like it is yours. But, if you associate heartache over the circumstances, give it back. It's just a material thing. They make more. What if it were lost in a fire or a theft? I don't think he legally gets it back, so just think about what the worth is to you.
2007-10-08 07:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by Flatpaw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there's no legal issues regarding the ring unless you signed a contract of some sorts that says you would give it back in the event of breaking up. He willingly gave it to you as a gift, so there is no reason for you to HAVE to give it back. It's up to you whether or not you choose to.
2007-10-08 07:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by bellereve04 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends. If it was a gift only, it's yours. If he broke up with you, even an engagement ring is yours because he broke the "contract". If he said "Here, you can wear this but I want it back if we break up", questionable because its a gift with conditions.
2007-10-08 07:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Middleclassandnotquiet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not really. It is considerd more of a gift than a promise of marriage (as an engagement rings is).
If he is claiming it was an engagement ring, then give it back.
Why would you want a reminder of a failed relationship anyway?
2007-10-08 07:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The ring was a gift, and it's legally yours.
2007-10-08 07:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by J P 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow... so the ring meant more to you than the guy, huh?
Legally, probably not. Because in this country, everyone has the legal right to be a greedy self-centered person.
2007-10-08 07:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Teekno 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You should give it back because it is the right thing to do.
What if it were his mother's ring or something? Would you keep it then?
Give it back!
2007-10-08 07:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Christmas Light Guy 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋