i mean like in an admiring way and nearly loose control of the car while hes looking.
2007-10-08 06:49:46 · 82 answers · asked by seahorse 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. They all look, but they should learn to do so in a way that doesn't insult the wife or cause a wreck.
2007-10-08 06:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by suzanne g 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the reason he looks. Is it to have a feeling that he would like to have sex with her and subsequently find a reason to look her up or is it only because he admires the beauty of the human female?
I would say a lot depends on the security in your relationship. Are you afraid that he will break up with you? Are you afraid that you aren't able to communicate sufficiently with him as to what his real motiuve and would you believe it if it were solely innocent?
Now looking is not the problem. It is looking and driving without the focus on what the idea of driving is about. No cell phone chatter, no picking up dropped items on the floor, no looking at the passenger when talking to them and I can go on and on how persons get into accidents without a complete focus on driving. Doing this is risking both your lives in an accident.
Going to just the looking, I have been married to a very beautiful women for over thirty years and she tells me that if I DON'T look she thinks there is something wrong with me! I also allow her to look at handsome men. We are very secure in our relationship and know nothing is going to come about just by looking. Remember that humans are beautiful creatures and one can admire either male or female without any devious lust, but perhaps you know your husband better than I.
2007-10-08 07:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Dan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying among the testorone driven male clique. "Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu". However nearly crashing a car and upsetting you in such a way is not a cool thing to do.
How do you stop him? you won't, it's the culture we blokes are brought up in. Bit like the female size zero shinnanigans.
2007-10-08 11:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Disid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hopefull he would be able to control himself a little better than that, losing control of a car while looking.
As for "its just what men do" thats partially true, but women look just as often if they see something that catches their eye. The main difference, men dont take near the time nor put in the effort women generally do to look nice, so there aren't as many that catch ones eye. Go to a bar, women are gawkers too.
I dont think its a big deal at all to look at someone else, so long as you keep the drool and the comments to yourself. Its not a cheating issue to me so much as a respect issue for my spouse. I respect my girlfriend too much to "crane my neck" or whistle or some other moronic cat-call.
I do look, and hear about it, but I would like to think I am not obscene or degrading to my GF
2007-10-08 09:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Phil M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking is okay, but "tongue hanging out" admiring, NO! Nearly losing control of the car because he's craning his neck to have a look? Also a big fat NO!
Men's peripheral vision isn't as good as women's, so they have to turn their heads to look in the direction of an object/person that interests them. Not smart when in control of a vehicle.
2007-10-08 08:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anybody can look, but looking hard enough to practically lose control of the car is a bit too much. I'd be upset if that happened to my husband. But, as long as there are no actions taken - then I guess there's really nothing to be upset about. Just let him know that it bothered you - and I'm pretty sure if it were the other way around (you looking at the man) he'd be pretty upset too.
2007-10-08 06:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by love<33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see men do it all the time, however loosing control of the car is not a good thing. I would make it clear that while you don't mind him looking, focus on what's really important like the road.
2007-10-08 06:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by tx_earthangel 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
men loOK at women just as women look at men. but there is a line that should not be crossed. if either look in a flirtatious way or if driving should loose control for a moment then that too much. so to answer no its not ok.
2007-10-08 07:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by KAT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not. I let my girlfriend look at other men who she finds attractive. I think I would be arrogant to say that I am the most attractive in the world, which I know I am not. So, as long as she does not do more than staring it's fine. The same goes the other way around. I look at other attractive females too but not more than that. There is a limit to it, of course, in terms of for how long that person is staring without being disrespectful to wife or husband.
2007-10-08 06:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by michaelR 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
losing control of the car is no good..... I don't even look for that long.
But it's perfectly fine. Telling a married man that he can't look is like telling a fish that it can't breathe underwater.
There's nothing you can do about it. It's in our nature. Don't pretend that you don't look at other hot guys in an admiring way...
The philosophy for married couples that I would live by would be "look don't touch."
2007-10-08 06:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by Laibach 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't see anything wrong in looking as long as they don't touch. I am a married and I have been known to look at a good looking man. It doesn't mean I love my husband any less. So it goes both ways.
2007-10-08 08:04:06 · answer #11 · answered by Dory 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋