2007-10-08 06:26:26 · 18 answers · asked by natasha n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Something isn't right here, you have a womans name and you are complaining about your wife?
2007-10-08 07:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay calm and gather as much evidence of her infidelity as possible. Do not disclose that you know about her affair until you've gathered the evidence. Once you feel like you have adequate proof, decide whether you still want to work on the relationship. If you do, then immediately start marriage counseling. Realize that you're in store for a ton of hard work and heartache along the way. Restoring trust is going to be incredibly difficult. If you've considered this and decide you're not willing to work at it, which is certainly understandable, then seek the advice of a lawyer before confronting her. Then, move forward with your life. I'd suggest some personal counseling during this process to help you deal with your feelings of betrayal. The only thing that helps you get over this whole ordeal is time....trust me....I learned from personal experience. I feel your pain..it was the most difficult thing I've ever had to deal with in my life. I hope you don't have kids because it makes it 100X harder. Good luck.
2007-10-08 06:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this had got to be the WORST ever. If this is the first time and it hasnt been going on for a long time she might just be seeking out attention trying to make herself feel better. You might think that you are doing this but sometimes they just need more attention and then one thing leads to another and they are addicted. You could leave her but you might always wonder what would have happened if you really had honest therapy where it would open up communication. A marriage is a HUGE deal and even if she is doing this she will one day regret it. Try seperation before even filing for divorce. If she continues the relationship then she will never know what it will be like with out you. You cant force anyone to do anything so definatly make sure you take care of yourself and keep your head up. Everyone makes their own decisions. You didnt force her to do this, she did.
Good Luck Sweetie!
2007-10-08 06:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by whateveritsniki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is cheating because she sees no future in a relationship, then the counseling would be pointless.
However, if you BOTH want to save this relationship you need to see a counselor. You need to talk to someone who sees the truth from a distance, not family or friends who might be biased from the beginning. Many marriages go through this and survive, but both partners have to want the same things.
Is this something that you are 100% sure of or only THINK so?
God Bless!!
2007-10-08 06:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jaye16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that can decide what to do, if you have it in your heart to forgive her do if not let her go however you guys need to sit down and talk find out why it happened in the first place. Cheating is wrong but it is a sign that there is trouble in paradise take your time evaluate and then honestly ask yourself if you can fix this marriage or not.cheers
2007-10-08 06:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? If you are looking for permission to leave her, I'm sure that you'll have lots of people on your side.
If you are looking for what to do to move on and forgive, that just takes time. If you want to make it work, she has to as well and she'll have to understand that it will be up to her to PROVE to you that you can trust her again. She needs to be fully open and honest about what led to the affair - what did she get that she wasn't finding at home?
I assume you've already confronted her on the affair, but if not, that's where you should start!
2007-10-08 06:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
has everyone in the world forgotten vows. now what she did was a deal breaker, for sure but sometimes it takes a catastropy in a marriage to get a marrige on the right track. talk to her and find out why she cheated. then make your own mind up cause you have to live with her. good luck. oh and going out and sleeping with another woman isn't going to make things better. two wrongs will never make a right.
2007-10-08 07:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry that you are going through this...if you think you want to give her another chance, and she's willing, I would suggest counseling. You need to learn to trust their again and find out why she had the affair. Was it for sex? Attention? These are the first steps at re building your marriage.
GOOD LUCK!!
2007-10-08 06:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Switch to a game she can't cheat at.
2007-10-08 06:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by wizjp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. But don't let her keep doing it. My hubby has "looked" on the internet but not touched and I said if he even did it again it's over. I believe you get one chance and that's it.
2007-10-08 06:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by Kera L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋