hey. i know this is a stupid question, and i tried to tell her to just wait because it will be best on the baby. but she wants to hear ya'll opinions and help too. she already has a 7 month old baby girl, and now is almost 5 months prego. she is wanting to know how she could have the baby earlier, and what could help. and whats the soonest she could possible have the baby, without it harming her baby. she's wanting to have the babys real close in age. STUPID i know. but please help her out
2007-10-08 06:01:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ask her how she is going to take care of a 7 month old and visit the NICU every day? And then, after the newborn comes home from the NICU, IF it actually survives, and she has to take care of a child with multiple special needs like cerebral palsy, mental retardation, oxygen therapy AND take care of a toddler.....how will she deal with that?
2007-10-08 06:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by robinandmarty 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not a safe or good idea to have a baby before the 9 months. During the 5 month of pregnancy the baby is starting to develop a fine hair, called lanugo, which covers the body. Likewise, her eyelashes and eyebrows are developing. Her fingerprints and footprints are now developed. She begins to suck and swallow and may even be found sucking her thumb. Vernix, a white lanolin-like covering, appears on baby to protect her skin. Her ears are developed as well and she may be able to hear you now. Your baby is approximately 7-8 inches long and weighs 3/4-1 pound by the end of this month.
At 6 months the baby's lungs and immune system is being developed. both her kids would still be close in age.
Its not a good idea to rush pregnancy. I would say at 8 months is the safest as there isnt much developing.
I would advise her to be patient and enjoy her pregnancy and her 7 months baby girl.
2007-10-08 06:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a stupid question, but there is no answer that guarantees anything. Even being induced in a hospital does not guarantee she will go in labor. 38 wks is when the baby is completely developed. Before that there is a risk because his/her lungs are not developed yet. At 5 months pregnant it is way too early to have a baby and not worry about something going wrong. She needs to think of her baby and not what she wants or thinks she wants. It sounds like she is being a bit selfish, willing to put her baby's life at risk to get what she wants. She needs to step up and be a mom first.
2007-10-08 06:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by ~Angel Eyed Pookie~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were at all possible to do something to have a baby sooner, I know I would have done it. I have 4 children who were all born past their due dates. I tried all the suggested things...walking alot, having sex, nipple stimulation, eating spicy foods, driving down bumpy roads, washing floors on my hands and knees (my grandma's suggestion). Nothing worked and all 4 of my babies came when they were good and ready despite what I tried to do to hurry the process. I don't know who this mom is to you (wife, girlfriend, friend, sister, etc.), but hopefully she'll listen to you. Babies less than 18 months apart are REAL close in age. I don't know if her reasons for wanting the babies close in age are stupid or just merely selfish or simply unrealistic. If she thinks they are going to be best friends - there isn't a guranatee on that. My brother married a woman with 3 girls, the youngest 2 are 17 months apart and they fight tooth and nail (they are now 18 and almost 17). Good friends of ours have a boy and a girl also 17 months apart. That mom was exhausted until the youngest one went to kindergarten. They are adults now and get along pretty well, but they didn't as kids. As a mom with 4 kids, I suggest she enjoy her baby as long as possible since she'll be one busy mom when her second baby comes and she shouldn't rush it's arrival. If she thinks people will pay a lot of attention to her because her babies are close in age, people might make a comment or two that make her feel special, but in the end no one but her will be there for the endlessly sleepless nights, months of spit-up and diapers. There are many things that people will suggest to bring on labor, but none are proven fool-proof.
2007-10-08 06:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your friend loves her babies and wants the best for them. The best thing for an unborn baby is to stay in the womb. This is where all the growing and development takes place. You never want to rush this. The soonest the baby can be born is when the baby is ready to be born. Eleven months difference is close enough in age when your baby's health is concerned.
2007-10-08 06:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She can't do anything, the baby will come at its own time and I don't see how 4 months will make much of a difference in their age anyway. A premature baby even as much as a month early can have all types of complications even unformed lungs. That is why the good Lord has us carry them for 9 months, so that they will be healthy and well formed. Tell her try and fool with nature and she will be sorry.
2007-10-08 06:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by Angela F 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not a stupid question. Doctors can help her with this. If she insists on having it early, go with c-section, it will be less trauma for the baby, inducing labor can have terrible effects on the baby. I say, wait and let it come natural, they will be close enough in age anyway. They will barely be a year apart. They could start school together, she can hold the older one out until the younger one is old enough.
2007-10-08 06:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by gigglings 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She doesnt need to try having her baby early than the baby is due to be here unless of some medical reason and they have to take the baby earlier than due date. Her children are gonna be quite close in age. Is she ready to deal with 2 children being in diapers and both on bottles or breast fed? I think she needs to just relax and think about what she is asking.
2007-10-08 06:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sugastack 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks early is the safest. anything else you run the risk of the baby being in the hospital for a while and i agree with you that she should wait and just be happy to be having a (hopefully) heatlhy baby
2007-10-08 06:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by ☆rebel yell☆ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she is not thinking smart...she is going to end up with just her 7 month old if she doesn't get it together...if she wanted them to be closer in age she should have thought about that and got pregnant sooner...but she needs to wait or be reported because that is child endangerment!
2007-10-08 06:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by 6/6-08 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋