Almost 30 weeks and scared of delivery.?

Question

This is going to be out 1st child and I am getting nervous/scared about delivery. As I was getting out of the shower last night and looked in the mirror and started crying...it hit me all of a sudden. I know our bodies are made to do this...Has this happened to any other women this early? Is it normal? Will it continue or will I come to grips and accept it?

Answer 1

You will come to grips with all of it especially when you holding your sweet baby! Every woman that is expecting looks at themselves in that dang mirror and trys to find every stretch mark, every sag and oh my gosh, "How fat I am, will I loose all this weight?" All those questions flood the brains of just about every pregnant woman alive, past, present and even those in the planning. Some bodies snap back faster than others, some sag worse than others, some hang onto the fat worse than others, some just can't get back to the way it use to be before it was pregnant. I can tell you this, after going through two pregnancies of my own, having two sons of my very own, through the child birth, delivery, IT IS WORTH EVERY MINUTE OF IT just to HOLD YOUR BABY!! Don't be nervous! You aren't an Indian back in the early days that have to go into the woods by themselves to squat behind a tree to push a baby out. You are going to be in the USA's finest hospitals, I hope and PRAY having a gorgeous baby! God's angels given to women!! So be happy, enjoy the fact that soon, you are going to be a Mother and what JOY that is going to be. How PROUD you will be when your baby will be laid in your arms. How QUICKLY you will forget all that pain of having the baby. You'll want another one. You'll be so surprised. May God Bless you, your family and this special baby about to come into this family of yours!! Take care and Gods Love be around you!

Answer 2

I'm 30 weeks with my 2nd. I think most women know exactly how you feel. With my first, I was scared and anxious about what to expect. Would I be embarrassed? Would I poop on the table? Could I even do this at all? I was 36, but felt like I was 13 years old and way too young to be having a child.

Rest assured, you’ll do fine. Somehow, your body kicks in and you just deal with everything as it comes. I had to be induced and didn’t have an epidural. At one point, I remember thinking “I can’t do this, I’m going to tell them to cut me open and take this child out NOW”. That was just before my last push – and out came my son. Within a few minutes, you almost can’t recall the pain. From time to time, my husband will mention a detail about labor and I have to think hard to remember the painful part.

I’ll be doing it again (maybe even on the same day as you). I’ll be scared just like you, but we’ll both do fine. Best of luck and congratulations!

Answer 3

Every woman that has had a baby has gone through the same feelings of apprehension. You know that child has to come out one way or the other and there's no going back. If you think about it-it's the lack of control over the labor not the pain that scares a lot of women. Talk to your OB doctor about pain options-epidurals and other things to make the labor and delivery easier. Some women opt not to use those things,but just knowing they are available puts their minds at ease.

Answer 4

you will come to terms with it don't worry. Everyone deals with these emotions at some point. I am 35 weeks and am now very excited about the delivery and not nervous at all. Then my doctor says they're watching my blood pressure for preclampsia which means I could have it sooner. Now I'm all freaked out again. Yeah, I'm ready for the baby in a few weeks, not now!!!! So these feelings will come and go, relax you'll be fine. That's what I keep believing anyway!

Answer 5

Whether or not you come to grips with it is all up to you and your husband. I am still a bit afraid of going through a vaginal delivery and we are 40 wks and 4 days today. The thing i have kept telling myself is that i would much rather go through a vaginal delivery then another c-section. I also know that i can get an epidural if i need to and that my husband will be by my side to comfort me. It has taken a lot of prayer and my husband and nurse and pastor's wife who is an OB nurse to convince me that i will be okay. Yes, our bodies were made for this, but that alone did not help dissipate my fears. I am not every other woman out there, but i know i have several people praying for me/us and i know either way this baby will be born within the next two wks. Either via c-section, if i don't go into labor on my own or vaginally. Just remember that whatever you have to do to have this baby is going to be worth it in the end. To have a healthy baby i would be willing to go through months of pain. Which is what i chose with my first c-section. If i had been induced again and had success at giving birth vaginally to my 10lb 10.5 oz son (two wks late) there were so many risks to his health. I decided to take on the risk and pain, figuring i would be more likely to make it through them then he would be.
Keep your chin up, it's a normal fear for first time mom's to go through. Even for second time mom's like myself. If i have to have another c-section i am going to be in your shoes, afraid and in tears. I also know that it will be worth it because my baby girl will be all right.
I pray you are comforted and are able to come to grips with your fears. :0)

Answer 6

I went through the same thing. I even started thinking I don't won't to do this. I couldn't change it but I sure wanted to. Just relax as much as you can and like you said our bodies are made to do this. Nervous just means you're normal. I think we hear so many stories from other mothers about their delivery that it scares us. Just remember motherhood is well worth it. Just keep your head high and talk to your friends and family about your fears. It will all work out into a healthy little baby.

Answer 7

For me, giving birth was my biggest fear...ever. So much so that I saught out a doctor who agreed to give me a C-section! However, I went into labor early and didn't have time for a C-section...I didn't even have time for an epidural! I literally gave birth 12 minutes after arriving to the hospital. I won't lie- it hurt, but it was a very different pain than if you cut your hand with a knife. It was really odd; your body tries to numb itself naturally so that is why it hurts but it's a weird kind of pain.
I was so freaked out by the fact that I wasn't having my C-section and couldn't even get pain killers that I just pushed as hard and as fast as I could to just get it over with. Literally 8 minutes or so of pushing and my daughter was born. It was over before I knew it.
If you are determined to just get the job done and not wuss out on pushing, it isn't so bad. You just have to accept that it will hurt for a little while and then you're done!
To be honest, the worst part about labor and delivery for me were the contractions. Eight hours of contractions at home by myself sucked. If I could choose to experience either eight hours of contractions or eight minutes of birth- I'd rather experience the birth.
Hopefully this will put your mind at ease. If you focus on the scary parts of giving birth, it will just make it worse. Another thing that helped me is that I didn't know I was going to have my baby that day so it was a surprise, I wasn't expecting it.

Answer 8

Totally normal. Your first time is scary because you don't know what to expect. I was 10 days late with my first. I found out on a Mon. that they were going to induce me on Wed. I couldn't sleep or eat I was scared and nervous. But I also knew I was in good hands. I knew my Dr. wouldn't let me have an epidural so I had to come to terms with the pain I was going to experience. And I did. And you will too. I had to trust that what I was going to go through millions of women have had to do it too and just think back in the day they didn't have the luxuries of child birth like we do now. You will be fine. Promise.

Answer 9

You're right - it is totally natural for us to have babies. But it is still scary. Just try not to be too worried about it. I was nervous, too, but when it came time, I was so anxious to get the baby out, that I was actually looking forward to labor. Just remember to focus on something that puts you at ease. (at least try to!) Some hospitals will let you make a cd of music to listen to during the birthing process. That really helped me. Also - I was adamant that I was not going to have any drugs to ease the pain, and ended up taking them. I am SO glad I did. It really made it a lot easier, and both me and the baby were fine. Good luck!!!

Answer 10

With the two certainly one of my teenagers I did get an episiotomy. It replaced into not something to undesirable. only shop your self sparkling after each and every holiday to the bathing room and you'd be superb. have not had a C-area yet. i'm apprehensive approximately that this time too (preg with #3). My son did get caught yet owing to the epidural i did not somewhat feal a element. His blood tension and heart cost did start to drop even nevertheless all of it worked out. As for the bowel stream I by no potential asked and that i don't prefer to ever locate out. it somewhat is a common area of delivery and the medical doctors and nurses are used to it so i will stay if somebody else had to freshen up my poo some cases. I do exactly not examine out something happening down there. I shop pushing until eventually they say supply up and wait to hold my infant. I do my activity they do theirs (even the disgusting areas). i comprehend it is gross yet why supply your self some thing else to be hectic approximately. only %. your bags and comprehend the place to circulate once you do could run to the wellness center. circulate away the rest to them. take excitement in each and every thing and function relaxing!